Not Sure How To Do This?

[xenaprincess]

Well, I was in the hospital this past weekend, and came home last night at 7:00. I feel like I was hit and dragged by bus!! I have had another bout with GERD (Gastrolesauphagus Reflux Disease...sp?) and as usual it layed me up for about 36hrs! Now the doctors are telling me that this is being brought on by stress, because physically, nothing seems to be wrong. However, mentally...well, I'm not handling stress too well. And it was weird...every time John came to the hospital...I would have another bout of vomitting. My body's way these days of handling the stress! So, tomorrow, I am going to see a lady from the hospital who offers support for women going through this type of stress! She met with me while in the hospital, and I feel this is a good move up for me and the kids.
I will keep you all posted!

 

[BeckyNC]

Sharon--I just ran across this thread and wanted to wish you strength. I have never been in your position, so I can only imagine the pressure you are under. I guess it's difficult to think about now, but perhaps in the near future you will be in a better place--without your husband and with kids and doggies in a stress-free (lower stress) setting.

I have issues with GERD, too. It seems I inherited the problem from my dad and grandmother! Stress definitely exacerbates it! I take Prevacid, but I had several very stressful months at work--awful project manager I had to work with who works out of Germany--and my reflux got worse. Once the stress went away, the problem improved.

I wish you the best in our meeting with the support woman from the hospital. You are fortunate to have some good resources.

Becky

 

[jray]

Sharon stay strong anf healthy. I'm glad you are talking to someone that will help you. Keep us posted!

 

[Marybeth18]

Sharon,

We are all pulling for you! Take care of yourself and be strong - keep us posted.

 

[momstaxi]

I hope you are feeling better. As you know stress is no good for your health. I'm glad you're meeting with the lady from the hospital. good luck
Michele

 

[basak]

Oh Sharon.. How on earth did I miss this thread??

You do not deserve this. I knowi you already know that, but say it out loud. You do not deserve this. Noone does. The longer you stay, it will be harder to leave. Do not feel bad about leaving during Christmas. There will be plenty of other Christmases coming along. Make sure you spend them happy and joyful and your kids around you. Please keep us posted and I swear, if I was living anywhere near you, I would physically come and get you tonight!
At times when feeling weak and lonely, read our posts and you'll feel the strength coming in to you.... smile

basak

 

[CC]

Oh Sharon, I'm so sorry to hear of all this. I know first hand how hard it is to get out...it took me about 6 months to make the decision to leave my ex. But he wasn't even abusive and horrible, it was just an empty, dead-end relationship. I moved out on December 21 last year, and have never looked back. Unfortunately I believed him when he told me I'd have access (joint custody) of our two boxers, which turned out to be another of his lies - I've seen them twice, briefly, in the year since I've been gone. It is probably the hardest thing I've ever done, but I am so much happier now.

A year later, I have my own townhouse, a paid-off car, a better job, a new boxer (with only my name on the registration), and a boston terrier coming in a few weeks. I can do as much Rescue volunteering as I want, I can run my house how I want, and I am happy. I still suffer from my GERD, but that's just because I have too much job stress. My personal life is better than it's been in ages. Give yourself and your kids the greatest Christmas present you can, and get out. Take up your brother and SIL on their offer to help with the furkids, and stop calling him your DH (your first post)...doesn't sound like there's anything Darling about him.

 

[xenaprincess]

Well, I just have to tell you all that the meeting at the hospital with this woman was, for loss of a better word, awesome!! She was a worker for Partners of Sexual Assault and Abuse. The things that she made me aware of...the help and support offered within the community..I never knew was there really. All this time I'm thinking that I would have to pack up my kids, myself, possibly be forced to give up 1 of my fur-babies (how does one even choose??? :( ) and all this during Christmas Holidays. I have been advised by many that going to a shelter will quicken my chances at affordable housing, but I have hesitated for so long. NOW, I am told of this Outreach program that will make sure my kids and I (fur too!!) stay right here and make sure that we are financially stable...able to pay rent, utilities and food. Any legal fees will be paid...counselling for all the children if needed and most likely will be!! They also offer support to further my education if wanted...job readiness programs, etc!! I felt like this huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. I have told John that he must leave. I have given him a week, which, in my opinion at this point is generous! Also, on a more disturbing note, John was heard at the hospital (while I was in there) by an observant nurse, swearing in the presense of our 4yr old daughter!! Appparently he was ticked because they would not allow him in to see me at that time because I was in ER and still being diagnosed and in no shape to see anybody (let alone my 4yr old daughter...geesh...he never thinks!! :mad: ) So the nurse recorded it and passed the info along to the doctor, which began this process of getting me this wonderful support that has been made available to me.
I do visit this thread alot and reread all the wonderful words of support and encouragement from all you guys and it does give me strength...(thanks Basak..you're a real sweetie...wish you were closer too! )!!
CC...your story definately inspires me and I know that could be me too if I just make this move once and for all!! As for the DH...the D doesn't always have to stand for "darling" and the H not always "husband"...in my state of mind the H was more for HEAD and the D...well...I'm sure you can figure that one out!

 

[Evie&Adam]

Sharon: so glad your community has helped you into this program!! It sounds like a good place to be Be safe and keep us updated!

Lots of Love!!!!!!!

 

[Marybeth18]

Sharon,

I was so happy to read your post from last night. What courage that must have taken for you to tell John to leave! It sounds like Canada has a much better domestic violence program (or at least where you are in Canada) than we have here! You and your kids will be so much better off!

Please be extra careful this week - I am not trying to scare you but keep your guard up a little bit higher until he leaves. Also, change the locks once he does go. Being a New Yorker I tend to be a bit paranoid - but better safe than sorry.

Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help - I know I am far away but I can always listen!!