Not Sure How To Do This?

[jray]

Sharon, I'm so sorry I missed this thread! I hope you are being strong and are safe. I have no idea what you are oging through I just pray for your and children's safety. I wish we were closer so I can help you out. You are a strong woman and I know this will all work out for the best.

Jenny

 

[momstaxi]

Sharon
Just wondering how you are doing? any updates?
Michele

 

[Layla's Mum]

Sharon, I hope you are doing well, and that you are safe through this transistion. Good luck with everything.

 

[Lael]

Sharon,

I found this thread a bit late, but I still want to offer you my support and encouragement. Hang in there and stay strong for your children.

Cat

 

[xenaprincess]

I just wanted to post an update so my friends here in BW do not worry unnecessarily. I am still here in my home. It's been very stressful but I am getting lots of support through counselling and my church. John comes and goes...he never stays gone! He's like a bad cold that will not go away. We do not speak because it always results in a fight. Living like this has to end and I clearly see that he has no intention of being the one to leave. I hesitate to make the move because I still am not sure if it's the right thing to do...uproot my kids and doggies so close to Christmas. I am struggling with this everyday and I have to muster up the courage to just do it! I know that there is a light at the end of this tunnel. It's just getting to the end of that tunnel.... :(
I know my children and myself will be so much better off, so why is this so darn hard?? I feel as though I have taking a leave of my senses...nobody in their right mind would accept these living conditions, so what is my problem?
I will continue to keep you all posted. Thanks again so much for all your words of encouragement and support.

 

[Evie&Adam]

it's good to hear from you!! I know it is a very tough situation, but you are doing the right thing - for everyone. Since he comes and goes, is there a chance that maybe you could ask the sheriff to come to "keep the peace" while you talk to him and ask him to leave??? I know our sheriff with do things like this. I agree that uprooting your kids/dogs is very hard. Sounds as if he may leave.

Best of luck!!!

Luvs & sloberry kisses!!

 

[abradbury.5]

Why is it so hard to leave? Let's see... some possible reasons:
Right now, as bad as the situation is, you know it and understand it. When you leave, it is a great unknown, and the unknown is always scary.

Maybe you still care for John.... I don't know. But I know when you see someone you care about walking a destructive path of life, it's extremely difficult to walk away. You want to stay and help that person, even though you can't fix a problem that doesn't want to be fixed.

You're worried about being the bad person by taking the kids away from their Dad.

I don't know if any of those are true.... I'm just offering some suggestions. It IS hard to walk away.... I know in my case, when I walked away from an abusive ex, I thought I was a failure for not being able to make the relationship work. Of course, that's silly when I look back on it, but.....emotions are tricky.

You MUST leave though, because the situation is unhealthy in every way for everyone involved including yourself, your kids, and your pups. Once you walk away, you'll wonder why you took so long to do so.

Here are some strength vibes to help you on your way!! {{{{{STRENGTH}}}}}

Let us know if there is anything we can do.

 

[Poohsmom]

Sharon- I just caught this thread I wanted to send my support and prayers your way,too. I have been in your shoes and it is never easy to make that first step but you can do it girl !! I was lucky, my job had offered me a promotion within the company but I would have to move. I jumped at the chance. My son did not get along with his stepfather and I had grown to hate being in the same room with him. I made arrangements for my son to stay with his dad( we got along better after the divorce ) as I didn't want to disrupt his school,called my landlord to let them know that the moving truck they were about to see was for me and to keep it silent, got my family to help and moved everything but a bed and one set of dishes for him while he was at work. I also let my company know that no info about me was to be given out without my permission. It was the best thing that I ever did.
Around here we have a legal aid society that offers legal services for almost nothing and most of the time it is free. Do you have anything like that there?
I'm keeping you,the kids and your furbabies in my prayers. We are all pulling for you here at BW. Stay in touch as you can and be strong.

Sue

 

[zzzina]

I wish I were closer

Sharon, First of all I'm sooooo sorry for the hell you and your children are going through right now. I wish I lived closer to help you out with the doggie situation. I'm glad you have your brother and SIL to take them till you get this fixed. I've been there, and your kids are right, YOU DESERVE BETTER! Take things one step at a time, and PLEASE do keep us posted on your progress. We're all thinking about you, and wish you nothing but the best. All your boxerworld friends will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Zina

 

[Minty]

I just wanted to wish you all the best and to say I hope you find the strength to make what is probably the hardest (but should be the easiest ?) decision you will ever have to make.

You and your children (skin and fur) deserve the best and I'm sure, once you have found the strength to make the break, that you will love the freedom and peace of mind it brings, even if it's not easy in the beginning of your NEW life.

Please be safe in anything you do...YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!