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[xenaprincess]

Sharon and kids:

I hope you guys had a wonderful (hopefully peaceful) holiday weekend! Best wishes to all!!!

Jenny

Jenny, we had a wonderful Christmas!! My boys went to visit their Dad in Toronto on the 23rd, so it was just Jessica and myself and the doggies. We were invited to my SIL's mothers on Christmas day for dinner and I cannot express enough my gratitude for the warm welcome we recieved. They have a tradition of exchanging gifts before dinner, and Jessica and I were overwhelmed with gifts from my SIL's entire family!! We had a most beautiful dinner and when we were done eating, more gifts were brought to the table for each person there, that came from the hostess! They all absolutely loved and spoiled Jessica as she was the only little one there.
My teenager came home Christmas Day night so he could attend our own family dinner on Boxing Day. My mother had rented a hall for the whole family, including her partners side of his family. The meal was catered and it was also a beautiful meal....and NO cleanup!! :D
My teenagers gf (whom I cannot be more happier that he has found a girl like her compared to what he use to bring home ) gave me the most gorgeous diamond heart pendent and said that she wanted to give this to me as it stands for love and she admires the love that I have for my family...God love her!
Jessica had a few moments on Christmas morning where she felt a huge sense of loss and missing her daddy. I was a little bummed that her main gift (InteracTV and Dora dvd) did NOT work!! She became very upset about that and started asking for her daddy. THEN she likes to listen to music on the computer and can play songs herself. Well, she always loved a song by Pink called Family Portrait, and while she listened to that, she began to cry and said she didn't want her daddy to leave...why did he go?..and then she accused me of making him leave because I always yelled at him! :( I hugged her so tightly I almost broke her...and I let her know that I know she misses him, and I do too sometimes, and assured her that she will see him again, but until then she can always talk to him on the phone. After that moment, I kept her sooooo busy she didn't have time to dwell on it, and she had a blast with all the family and festivities! :D All in all, we had a very nice Christmas!
(I have sinced told her that that particular song does not work on the computer anymore...she doesn't need to hear that only to get herself upset. )
Jenny, thank you so much for thinking about us...so sweet of you!

 

[Rlr.Giraffe]

That's fantastic Sharon! I think the holidays are a major hurdle in these situations, and sounds like you cleared it!!! Glad you were able to have a good holiday, and sounds like you were able to recharge a little bit .

 

[Minty]

Sharon, I've just got back from being away for the holidays and wanted to say I'm so glad you had a great Christmas. You deserved to have a wonderful time, so did your kids and it sounds like you got just that.

I hope you find out that everythig is fine heart wise and that you manage to get your cholesterol under control. Keep well.

 

[Cindy Creel]

I do not know how I have not seen this thread. I must have had my head in the sand. I read the entire thread, and I must say that you are an incredible person. I am so glad that you got out of that situation. My sister in law was married to an abuser for 17 years. He did everything that I read. That's their pattern. I hope that things have settled down for you in the new year. I apologize for not seeing this sooner and offering my support. Let us know how you are doing.

 

[momstaxi]

I am glad you had a nice time over the holidays. Hopefully the New year will bring you much joy and things will continue to improve.
Michele

 

[xenaprincess]

Minty, Cindy and Michele...thank you so much for the kind words! No worries that you are just catching up now...the Holidays are a busy time for all!
Things are coming along, but I am finding myself extremely overwhelmed lately. As the saying goes, "my cup runneth over, I am drinking from my saucer"! Aside from my own medical problems, my daughter will be going in on the 4th of March for her surgery (tubes in her ears). I know it's nothing to worry about, it's just frustrating for her and all of us right now because of her drastic hearing loss! She is not sleeping, probably averaging 5-7hrs a night, and she goes to bed at 8!! Therefore, I am not sleeping either! We know that she will be much better after the surgery!
I am packing daily, as there is a pending move, I just don't know when! I cannot afford to stay here...I am drowning in debt! The utilities are very high, especially the gas! The lazy landlord will not fix anything and I have a leaky hot water tap in the kitchen which is resulting in an even higher gas bill! And now, I am back to worrying about what to do about the dogs. I will be going into housing and only 1 dog is allowed. My brother did say he would take Spirit temporarily, but I have second thoughts on that now. He and his wife already have 2 dogs, 1 being Shai..a rotti who does not take kindly to male dogs! Also, they feed their dogs the lowest of the low grade dog foods and even though I would pay for Spirits food, I know that their dogs would be given his food, or vice-versa! PLUS...he and my SIL are alcoholics and I am sick of being around them! :( So they are no longer an option!
My 13yr old son is seeing a fantastic counsellor who has focused on nothing but POSITIVE things with him! She has been great for his self-esteem! I am looking into involving him in a sport activity now, as he NEVER gets chosen for any team he tries out for in school! The counsellor believes that we need to change his school as this poor kid has earned a reputation that he cannot shake, as hard as he tries! Since his meds have been started for ADD, he has changed so much for the better, but the school is STUCK in the past! :mad:
And finally, I am finding just how hard it is to be a single mom! Not just money wise, which is a huge barrier, but emotionally it's been tough! All day it's kids...all night it's kids!! I feel pretty ragged by the end of the day, and my patience is wearing thin! I love my kids but I need more! I need adult conversation and interaction! I need to get OUT to save my own sanity! I am eventually going to volunteer at our local shelter for 2 days a week while my daughter is in school. I am hoping that would be a foot in the door for me to eventually get a paying job at the shelter! God knows they can use the help there! I only have 2 free days a week so I want to be sure I am doing something that will be fullfilling to me. BUT...all that is on hold until I find out when and where I will be moving to! :rolleyes:
So, it's just the beginning of a new year and although it's tough now, I am praying that something gives soon and we can start to enjoy our lives!

 

[Cindy Creel]

You will be in my prayers. Do you have a local church that you are involed in? I know that many churches have groups for singles, and divorced people. This could be a great source of strength for you and get you around other adults. Things will work out for the best. Stay positive and be glad you are not in a controlling smothering relationship anymore.

Perhaps you could talk to the shelter and explain that the children have been through such an ordeal that they can not separate from their pets. The counselor may even write a letter explaining that the dogs are a source of comfort for the children during this time of difficulty. It would put them in a more depressed state if the dogs were not with you. I bet this could be worked out if it were presented in the correct way. I hope they can go with you.

 

[Marybeth18]

Sharon,

I was thinking about you and wondering how things were going.

I hope this is allowed. :o