Daughter & b/f split up

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Lola's mum

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My 14 year old daughter (Minty) and her boyfriend have split up and I am incredibly sad too is that allowed? :( I know she's only young but he was a much better influence on her than some of her friends to be honest and they got on so well.

They've been together since last September and he was her first love, a really lovely lad.
He did all the running while my daughter was more chilled about him but she loved him all the same, she's just a bit more reserved.
He lived in a nearby village so they didn't really see each other as much as they'd like to have done. At weekends he worked all day but would come over after and stay the night after (obviously not with Minty nonoicon) and in the week in the evenings if his parents were going to the gym in town they'd drop him here and pick him up on the way home. That's the reason he called it a day because they didn't see each other enough.
He was crying, she was crying it was all rather sad. When he left (yes he did the decent thing and caught the bus here to tell her) she was sobbing so much that it made me cry to see her so heartbroken, infact it makes me upset now just thinking about it all.
I shall miss him too, he became such a part of our life, coming to family functions etc, he fitted in so well. I never thought in a million years he would be the one to end it I thought it would be her.

I know I've got to go through this many more times as she is still so young but bugger I felt her pain and it's horrible.
 

Louise501

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I know, it's hard being a mum sometimes, we do feel their pain. I hope Minty is ok, I know she won't think so now but she will be, especially as she has a supportive mum like you :)
 

Biff

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My daughter is 31 now :eek: (I was a teenage bride!), happily married with three lovely children.:)

But I remember all too well the teenage years, how many times her heart was broken. How many times I've wanted to kill some poor woman's son for doing that to my baby! evilicon

We know she will recover from this, and be all the stronger for it. It's a part of growing up, it's life :)

It doesn't help with the pain she (and you!) is feeling now though, so please feel this big (((hug)))
from Grannie Barbara
 

Az Boxr Lovr

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I'm so sorry to hear about Minty. I have two teenage daughters. One is 16 and the other 14. The 16 year old had her heart broken right around when she turned 16. She was going out with this great guy who was also over all of the time. He had cheated on her and the guilt got to him and he confessed. He was Kaelee's first love as well. Even though she loved him, she had enough self pride to break up with him. She cried in my arms more nights than I can tell you. It is indeed very, very sad to see your daughter so upset. All I can say is in time it does get better. I also really understand what you mean about missing the boy too. I was so used to John being around that I missed him as well. Hang in there, and hope that somebody else will come along and catch her eye! And yes, unfortuately this will happen to both of our daughters again.
 

xenaprincess

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Yes Tracey, I can certainly relate to what you are saying, only on the other end of the scale...with my boys! It will always hurt us when our kids hurt...we're moms and it's in the rule book! ;) My 20yr old (likes the long-term relationships) is currently involved in his 2nd serious relationship. When his 1st one ended after 3yrs (she cheated on him), myself and my 2 other kids were missing her just as much because she became part of our family...we were "use" to her. If and when anything should happen with this current relationship (1yr + ), I'm sure we will feel the same way again. And also, like a mother lion, I'd like to shred any girl who dares to break my sons hearts..BUT, I'm human and we can't do that, so instead we have to be supportive and encourage our kids that there is a silver lining and that life does go on, and 99% of the time, to something better. My 16yr old is a "ladies-man" and is upfront with any girl that he is not the committed type. He enjoys a girls company for a movie or a dance and ALWAYS gives a rose on a date, but that's as far as it goes. He has many female friends who are just that...friends. He believes friendships are ruined because of relationships and "besides...when I agree to date one girl, another one comes along that I like better and girls just don't understand that"!! :LOL:
Please God let it be a looooong time before my daughter (6) is old enough to want to date! For some reason I anticipate that the mother lion instinct is gonna kick in and take over all rational human thought! wackicon
(((HUGS))) to your daughter and to you. This will pass for her of course, and she will be all the stronger for it. It's one of life's stepping stones. :)
 

Lola's mum

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She made me cry last night because she was so upset again :(
I just want to hold her and make her feel all better like I used to be able to.
I have never seen so much pain on her face before and it kills me.
She said it would be easier if he weren't such a nice boy, then she could hate him and it wouldn't hurt so much.
I never had it with my son (18yrs old) he's normally the one that does the 'firing' or it just fizzles out so this is all new to me.
 

x19er

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Poor we soul - splitting up is never easy no matter what the age - Dino & Sophie are sending you both a big slobbery kiss :)

Chocolate or shopping is required I think!
 

paysmom

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Love hurts... Theres no way to get around it sometimes either. When I'm having a hard time with something, I keep reminding myself, "This too shall pass..."
Give Minty (and yourself) a big hug from me and Payton sends those special boxer luvs... Take Care!
 

ZOE*BOXER

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Please tell Minty I am so sorry. :( I have no words of wisdom. I hope she is in better spirits very soon. :o
 
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