Unbelievable...I can't belive this!

[BoxerDudz811]

Okay...I'm so pissed off, confused, hurt, and some other things I cannot post here. Sorry this is sooo long I just NEED to get this out, some advice would be nice too, if anyone has any. Thanks!

So I work at a bar one day a week as a bartender. I've been there since May but I started out as a waitress. My boyfriend also works there...he is the one who got me the job. The owner, we'll call her Ann, has always been great, she is so kind and just a generally good person, but she is also very vulnerable.
So a couple of weeks ago she hires this new guy...we'll call him Bob. As soon as I met him I knew something wasn't right. He's sneaky and munipulative and just loooves to talk about himself. He comes in for me on Saturday nights and whenever he gets there I try to get out ASAP.
So last week he comes in 15 minutes before he is spost to start and starts bitching at me about how the ice isn't full and all of the glasses aren't washed. Now mind you, I was going to wait until about 10 till minutes before he was spost to get there to do all of this so he would be fully stocked! I was thinking about him! You don't get to work fifteen minutes early and then yell at the bartender who is working...who is he!?
So since he was there early and felt that he needed to start early I was getting ready to leave...I wiped down the bar, got the ice..ect. Then I counted my tips, it was a really slow day and I even looked at him and said "$27, that sucks"...he then proceeds to tell me how the last week he made over $150 and how he is the best bartender...blah blah blah.
Then comes Wednesday night....The manager,we'll call her Jane, who my bf and I have actually become pretty good friends with calls me up and says "Melissa, Saturdays have been really slow and Ann says she doesn't need you anymore." I was a little upset about this but I understood...but...I just could not get the feeling out of mind that Bob had something to do with this, I don't know why I just felt it!
Okay last night, my BF goes into work and calls me up and says "Babe, I have some news...some bad sh*t is going down at the bar...I'm not sure if you wanna hear it" I tell him that I defiantly do. So here's what happened. Bob, Ann and Jane sit down for a meeting. Ann for some odd reason decides that Bob is now the manager of the bar. Jane, who has been there since the bar opened and is awesome and has done EVERYTHING for Ann now has to answer to Bob. Bob has been there 2 WEEKS...2 WEEKS...that's it. So Bob decides that HE is going to work 7 days a week and get rid of like 6 employees..and ANN agrees!!! So there are Friday daylight and Sunday daylights open and Jane says "Oh Melissa said she can work daylights we'll just ask her". Ann agrees and Jane leaves the meeting to go and work.
Next thing you know, Ann comes over and tells Jane to call me and tell me that I do not work Saturdays anymore and that I will not be working there at all. Of course, Jane wants to know why...Ann just said 10 minutes ago that I would be working Fridays and Sundays...Okay here it goes... Bob told Ann when he came in the past Saturday he saw three $20's (Which is impossible because thats about how much the bar makes on a Saturday afternoon) in my tip bucket and that he knows I am stealing from the bar!! I counted my tips in front him! I told him exactly how much I made...I told him $27..he saw I had two $5's and the rest ones! Ann loved me, she used to call me her Angel...how did he get her to believe this!?
When Jane called on Wendesday to tell me this she was also mad and unsure of what to do so she just told me business was slow.
I was a nervous wreck about this...I would never ever ever do this. I am the most honest person...why did he do this to me!? Why is he firing everyone? This guy has to see Anns vulnerable side...he's trying to get over on her...he's trying to do something.
So after I get off the phone with the BF I call up Jane...she apoligizes for not telling me the truth and explains that she is thinking about leaving and wanted to get everyone that got fired together and decide what to do. Everyone but Jane and I are too pissed to even consider a meeting...they're gone for good. But Jane was the manager..and I got lies told about me so we are going to sit down on Monday and have a meeting with Ann, Bob, Jane, and I. I'm so scared I'm going to lose it! You can talk about me, say lies about me whatever...but you DO NOT f*ck with my character...you do not make me out to be the EXACT oppisite of what I am. I honestly feel that this is deformation of character and if nothing comes of this meeting I am 100% willing to take it even further...this guy is a con artist, a criminal...something...theres something not right about him and I will find out what. This is horrible...how did he get to Ann? What happened? Why fire everyone? Why lie about me? Why make Jane step down to a lower position...what is going on!?

I'm sorry this was so long guys...I just need vibes, support, advice, ANYTHING right now...I'm a wreck, I'm upset, I feel violated and confused.

 

[Ali_Crazy]

Melissa I'm so sorry to hear about all that's going on! I have no advice for you because I've never been that screwed over in my life. That guys sounds like a total jerk! I really hope something gets done about him and his sneaky ways! Sending tons of positive vibes to you and your BF during this hard time! Keep us updated on how things turn out after your meeting!!

 

[Evie&Adam]

so sorry this is happening. I agree with you that something is very wrong. If you think he is a conartist-criminal-whatever.. those types of records are available to the public. In my state, we can even check for those things over the internet.

Try to keep a cool head- let us know what happens at the meeting!

~luvs~

 

[MyGirlHeidi]

Write down everything you just told us. This guy sounds like he wanted to come in and take over the place...more $$ for him. Pretty selfish! His true colors will appear. I've worked with a bartender similar to the guy you describe. He didn't get anybody fired but he was full of BS about everyone except himself of course, he was the greatest! I was a waitress though and tried to stay clear of him. He was eventually fired for stealing from the bar! Go figure. I would just call him on everything he accused you of and when he stammers and doesn't have an answer you can give it to him! If that doesn't work talk to Ann by herself she may be able to give you some kind of insights as to why she is letting this guy take over her bar..after 2 weeks!
Good Luck and I hope you get some results in your favor.

 

[Cami]

In the end all that you can really do is offer up your side of the story and they can chose to believe you or not. IMO, I wouldn't want to stay on at a job that has an owner/manager that is that gullible. Only knowing this guy for a few short weeks and taking his side over yours......Perhaps he is a con-man, seems that he is a good one and in due time he will get his.

As far as doing anything else about him? It's very hard to win a defamation of character suit. The owner would first have to file a report on you and the so called theft of the money. Then you would have to prove that you didn't do it. Then you could go after this guy for lying about your character and making you lose your job and being falsely accused.

Better to have the sit down, speak your peace, get everything off your chest in a professional manner and let your words speak for themselves. In the end we can't "usually" change things once they have happened. In a perfect world you might get told that it was all a misunderstanding and that he no longer works there.

Don't sweat the small stuff. Way more important things to worry about that require our energy than to get caught up in other peoples vicious games. In your heart you know what type of a person that you are. And furthermore, anyone that really cares about you knows your personality and that is what is most important. It's far more important to keep a few really close people around you then it is to keep a lot more people with less of a relationship.

I am sure that this will eventually be something that you will forget. Losing a job in this manner does alot to ones ego. But in the end it's not terribly tragic. Things happen for a reason ALWAYS!! Perhaps there is something way more positive for you just around the corner.

Sending positives vibes your way! Good-Luck

 

[momstaxi]

I don't know what to say. That guy is a first class JERK!!!!!
I would definitely have that meeting and get it all out in the open. I mean at this point, what do you have to lose?

Good luck and keep us posted
Michele

 

[BoxerDudz811]

Thank you all for the positive words and vibes! It really helps to know that there are people out there for me! If nothing comes of this meeting Jane and my Bf are going to quit so it will be just Ann and Bob. Hopefully then she will relieze that you CANNOT do this to people.
Jane and I think that Bob wasn't expecting anyone to actually retaliate against him so we are wondering if he is going to be the one to quit when Ann calls him about the meeting (she hasn't yet). If anything we're hoping he will just admit that he lied and that he was wrong, Ann will see her ways, and he will get fired.
This is just so mind boggling to everyone because before he came along Ann treated her employees like family. We were invited to her home for cookouts, given little gifts of thanks, and she called us "The ones sent from Jesus to help me along the way" She used to tell us how blessed she was to have everyone (she was very religious). And then, suddenly HE comes along and "the ones sent from Jesus" are fired...cause he told her to, and she starts believing anything that he says! I can tell he is very munipulative but how can you change somone in a matter of two weeks!
He came in there saying how he was going to nursing school and he only needed one day just to help out a little and then as soon as she appoints him as manager he suddenly needs to work 7 days a week and convinces her to give him everyones hours and pay him overtime for it..all the while she is struggling and business is slow!
I don't get it...I KNOW that she didn't just decide to make him manager...how did he do it? How did he get her to fire all of these people that she loved and belive lies about almost every one of them? What is it about his guy? This is so mind boggling and frustrating...something is not right and I need to figure it out. I want my job back, I want my dignity back, I want my good name back...but also I care about Ann, he is going to rob her, steal from her...something. I know that she screwed me over but this guy has her wrapped around his finger, somethings gotta give!

 

[Rocky Hoya]

So sorry you are having a bad time. Is there any chance that the jerk and the manager are together? You know maybe he is romancing her like you said she is vulnerable. Whatever happens just know you are a good person and if it makes you feel better stick up for yourself and talk to Anne even if you dont get your job back just as long as you let her know that you are a person of honor and would not steal from the bar. Let us know what happens.

 

[Zannie]

i was a bartender for along time and i must say it is a cut throut job its seems fun and the money can be good but thier is a whole lot of crap that goes with it...sounds like bob had a plan as soon as he walk in..tell everyone there how you feel maybe it'll make them think alittle ....

ann

 

[2BoxersnOhio]

Jane and I think that Bob wasn't expecting anyone to actually retaliate against him so we are wondering if he is going to be the one to quit when Ann calls him about the meeting (she hasn't yet). If anything we're hoping he will just admit that he lied and that he was wrong, Ann will see her ways, and he will get fired.

Unfortunately, people like this don't just hone up to their actions and admit guilt or wrong. He will find a way out of this. He will continue to lie to get his way. He will probably threaten you.. you're never allowed to come back on the premisses again, etc etc.

My thoughts.. you need to think like him. You need to have a meeting with Ann WITHOUT him. If he's there, he'll pipe up every chance he gets, interrupting people and their thoughts and ideas and will likely take over the whole meeting. I definitely would NOT have a meeting with him.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. One of a couple of "best" ways this could turn out is that he gets fired and everyone goes back to the way they were before. Or you all decide you've had enough and you leave Ann and Bob on their own to deal with their actions.