No more Mr. Nice guy

[hammerdown]

Originally posted by Scrapper's Mom
I don't think it's fair to sacrifice the well-being of this dog even though you think the daughter will be upset. It sounds like this woman cannot control him, isn't interested in his care or feeding and when she's "traveling the world" where is this poor boy going to be staying? Boxers require LOTS of attention, and they need training and love. If this dog is ignored and untrained, he may become a problem - then your ex may just take him to the pound because he's "too much trouble." She's already admiitted she won't take him to the vet if he needs it. If you don't want the dog yourself, contact your local Boxer Rescue organization and please, do the right thing for this animal. The little girl can find another pet - a hamster, a fish, something that doesn't require as much love and care as one of our furbabies. And there is no way a 9 (I think I remember you said she was 9) year old girl can control an untrained, undisciplined un-neutered Boxer, let alone take him for emergency veterinary care if, God forbid, he should need it. And what if they move to a location where dogs aren't allowed? The list of unanswered questions goes on and on....

You are absolutely right, I did not think about it that way. I will keep in contact to make sure that he is not being neglected. If I see that they are not taking care of the little fella, then and only then will I take him away and keep him for myself. . . He is such a good boy, and I love that little bugger very much. . .

 

[Barb_IA]

Poopsie doodles...cute....I think you should reconsider keeping Tyson (tyty). Thinking on into the future when poopsie doodles is older and the young girl is older and the mothers is "still" running around having fun. The little girl is going to out grow Tyson. A lot of children do. They say they are going to take care of their animal, but we've all heard that before. I know because I have two (grown) children. Sure they were great with the dogs for a few years. Then came their teen years. Good thing I was here to take care of the poopsie doodles.

Barb

 

[diego's heart]

I will keep in contact to make sure that he is not being neglected. If I see that they are not taking care of the little fella, then and only then will I take him away and keep him for myself. . . He is such a good boy, and I love that little bugger very much

How will this be possible if she's living with another guy? You'll be "trespassing" and who knows what kind of guy she'll be with. I don't like this girl - sorry! She obviously doesn't place high priority regarding her daughter or you, seems completely irresponsible and evidently "it's all about her". WHY then would she even *care* about the welfare of Tyson? Plus, she can easily use Tyty as a ploy whenever she feels like it. You're giving her too much power - TAKE IT BACK !!!! Keep Tyson.

~ Lisa
(been there, but on the other side )

 

[hammerdown]

Originally posted by diego's heart
How will this be possible if she's living with another guy? You'll be "trespassing" and who knows what kind of guy she'll be with. I don't like this girl - sorry! She obviously doesn't place high priority regarding her daughter or you, seems completely irresponsible and evidently "it's all about her". WHY then would she even *care* about the welfare of Tyson? Plus, she can easily use Tyty as a ploy whenever she feels like it. You're giving her too much power - TAKE IT BACK !!!! Keep Tyson.

~ Lisa
(been there, but on the other side )

She is going to move back in with her mom, even if she does move in with another guy, NO MAN IS GOING TO KEEP ME FROM MY LITTLE BUDDY, NO MAN. . ..

 

[SC's Mom]

My 2 cents....You HAVE to take Tyson. If you are even the LEAST bit concerned then he must go with the person that can take care of him. He cannot tell you that he hasn't been fed for X number of days because "mom" has been to busy partying to get him more food. He cannot tell you he hasn't been taken to the vets for care and he hasn't been feeling well.
Someone needs to speak up for this little guy. I commend you for not wanting to take the dog from the little girl but someone has to step up to the plate for the puppy!
By the way, you sound like a nice guy, once you get over the hurt and pain I'm sure some lucky lady will scoop you and Tyson right up!

 

[Rowdy Boys]

I agree with the others... you need to take Tyson. I know the little girl needs a friend, but I have a feeling the mom will end up giving Tyson away before long (or worse, even try to breed him for money) and you will have no control over the situation.

As much as that little girl loves Tyson, she is way too young to be expected to have total responsibility for taking care of a young, in-tact male *boxer* and your ex is not the kind of person who would help pick up the slack. As soon as Tyson becomes an inconvenience to your ex (and, unfortunately, it sounds as if he already is), she's going to get rid of him - and she probably won't call you when she does.

 

[Scrapper's Mom]

I just thought of something - if you bought Tyson from a reputable breeder, the sale contract may require that if you don't want him, that the dog then be returned to the breeder for rehoming. But I hope you will take him and that he lives with you. You can give the daughter "visitation" every now and then if you want to - at your place, under your supervision.

 

[judy cox]

I hate to say this but are you out of your mind??? I say kick this
girl out and keep Tyson yourself. I hate to say this but you are
the one being used and abused!! If all she wants to do is ride,
drink and party her little girl is going to have a lot of worse let
downs in her life than loosing a dog. Do you really think she is
going to take care of Tyson if she can't even take care of herself
Please keep him with you, you sound like a great guy that will
give the puppy a happy home. It will be a lot more heartbreaking
for the daughter if he gets hit by a car or something.
Did you ever think one of her biker buddies stole your bike? It's
funny she wants to leave now. Anyways the daughter could come
and visit you and Tyson if she wanted. It seems to me its worse
putting the responsibility of a young dog on such a young child
and you can bet that is what will happen.
I don't want to sound mean or anything but get your blinded by
love head out of the sand and move on with Tyson. He will be
good company and help you get over this.
I really wish you a lot of luck. Really I do

 

[hammerdown]

Originally posted by judy cox
I hate to say this but are you out of your mind??? I say kick this
girl out and keep Tyson yourself. I hate to say this but you are
the one being used and abused!! If all she wants to do is ride,
drink and party her little girl is going to have a lot of worse let
downs in her life than loosing a dog. Do you really think she is
going to take care of Tyson if she can't even take care of herself
Please keep him with you, you sound like a great guy that will
give the puppy a happy home. It will be a lot more heartbreaking
for the daughter if he gets hit by a car or something.
Did you ever think one of her biker buddies stole your bike? It's
funny she wants to leave now. Anyways the daughter could come
and visit you and Tyson if she wanted. It seems to me its worse
putting the responsibility of a young dog on such a young child
and you can bet that is what will happen.
I don't want to sound mean or anything but get your blinded by
love head out of the sand and move on with Tyson. He will be
good company and help you get over this.
I really wish you a lot of luck. Really I do

I really don't think one of her friends would be bold enough to try. She is losing out on alot, because now she is going to move back in with her mother. She is going to have to sell her bike. She is going to have to put up with finding a man that will do all of the things that I have done and was willing to do.

I think out of all of the ill mannered things that she ever did, the worst was when we went out riding with a bunch of guys friends. We stop at a place to eat, and while we are eating a friend of mine calls me and tells me that he is on his way. He said "don't leave, I am coming" She takes the phone away from me and proceeds to say to him "you can cum all you want, just don't cum on me" I WAS SHOCKED AS HELL but she thought that there is nothing wrong with that. .. and that is the type of humor that she feels is o.k.. . I am sorry but I do not think that this is funny. When it is just your girls then fine, say what you want. In the presence of my male friends, then please respect me.

I am taking Tyson, I do not care how they feel about it anymore. I am not the one that brought this on. .. so I should not have to suffer anymore than I already have. . .

Thanks again for letting me get this off of my chest

 

[Vela]

Oh thank you thank you thank you for taking him. I have really been upset over the prospect of him being left with her. Her mother might not even let him stay with her if she's moving back home, and how long will it be before she moves out with another guy. Who knows. You cannot control her or her daughter's lives but you can contorl your own and Tyson's. You can have the daughter over to visit Tyson but this way at least he will be safe. He cannot make any of his own decisions so I applaud you for making the right choice for him. He will thank you as well. Also there is no worry about her dropping him off someplce or even just letting him out the door if she's sick of him. Like others have said there was no guarantee she would let you know if she deicded to get rid of him. Good for you!!!