I need help. This is killing me!!
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A diagnosis of cancer (even treatable) makes some people fearful and anxious, especially since they are now made to deal with their own mortality. I would not rush to make any rash decisions regarding your furbaby right now, and would give your bf time to adjust and accept the diagnosis. In the interim, I would most definitely look into finding a friend, family member, doggy day care, etc that could watch your dog so that you could spend some quality time with your bf.. I am sure he will feel more confident/positive about his future and not feel the need to "do it all now" once the surgery is done, and he gets some encouraging words from his doctors. Good luck. Thoughts and prayers are with you all ~ Cathy
catcrazy56
Boxer Insane
I am sure if you wanted to go on a cruise you could probably find a Boxerworld member to watch Buddy, there is a thread for that. I would never give up Foreman for any man. I think dh would give up me before Foreman too.
fayebay1969
Boxer Insane
He has been working days and nights here for the past 4 days. I'm really hoping that and his surgery are what's weighing on him. He got his schedule filled out for the next two weeks and has off after Friday. I'm thinking that's why he wants his freedom right now. Tomorrow night, I'm going to sit him down and talk before I come to work. I don't know what will happen right now due to me being stuck there with no way to leave right now, especially with Buddy also. So, please keep your fingers crossed for me.
Mushy
Boxer Booster
Please forgive me, and I may be overstepping my bounds here, but I have to say, I could never, ever love anyone that would make me choose between them or my dogs. It just wouldn't happen. All the people in my life know right from the start where I stand regarding all of my animals, and mostly all of them feel the same way about their animals, and if they don't, they respect how I feel. I mean, one of the things that attracted me to my husband in the first place was his love for animals and how he felt the same way I did. So, the type of person that would ask me to give up my beloved Mush, or any of my animals, is not the type of person I would want in my life to begin with. Sorry, but it's something I feel very strongly about.
fayebay1969
Boxer Insane
I found two boarding places here that don't look too bad. I have called them but want to visit this weekend. I will talk to him tonight about all of this. And to those who deserve a "hell yeah", I am making him read these posts.
Afubar, Buddy really behaves very well and stays by himself for several hours with full run of the house. My bf has to come home after a few hours to let him out to pee (no fence yet in the backyard) but he never has problems.
I've been in an abusive relationship before and I should know better.
Thanks y'all.
Afubar, Buddy really behaves very well and stays by himself for several hours with full run of the house. My bf has to come home after a few hours to let him out to pee (no fence yet in the backyard) but he never has problems.
I've been in an abusive relationship before and I should know better.
Thanks y'all.
Kirby Kirb
Boxer Insane
Wholy, I just read up on this post, and everyone has taken the words from my mouth! I am in a six year relationship, and am going to be married 07/07/07. Kirby is my baby he is 6 months, and is my world. If my fiancee told me it was time for him to go, I would show him the door. My fiancee wants to show me the world, go on a cruise, go to florida..bla blah blah, and yes it would be nice, and it is possible, but I am not going to get rid of a FAMILY member to do so. If things can't be done because of our dog, than to darn bad!! This is life, and you go with the cards you were delt, "the world owes noone any favors", is my motto!! I wish you the best, keep us posted!
Roxygirl2006
Super Boxer
I ditto everything that has already been said.
All I can say is that people in caring relationships should NEVER use ultimatums, they never bring a good outcome. They leave one person feeling short sided b/c they had to give up so much. Have you ever thought that maybe your bf WANTS you to choose BUDDY? Just food for thought.
All I can say is that people in caring relationships should NEVER use ultimatums, they never bring a good outcome. They leave one person feeling short sided b/c they had to give up so much. Have you ever thought that maybe your bf WANTS you to choose BUDDY? Just food for thought.
MavericksMom
Boxer Booster
My husband was not a dog lover when we got married but would never ever even think about making me give up my kids, now he loves them just as much as I do. If he really loves you he wouldnt even dream of asking you to give Buddy up. But everyone has already said all of this. IMHO I would tell him to hit the road if he keeps pushing you to get rid of Buddy. Dogs are family same as anyone else, I think they love you more than skin kids can too.
Keep your chin up and fight for what you want which is obviously Buddy. Everyone on BW is here to back you up.
Keep your chin up and fight for what you want which is obviously Buddy. Everyone on BW is here to back you up.
SILLY6PAK
Boxer Insane
You are in my thoughts
I know how easy it is to say I would never..... In the past these words have always come back to bite me in the butt. I know sometimes the otions seem limited. Take a breath and get creative. Tell him getting rid of the dog is NOT an option. After all this is a partnership. Now that getting rid of the dog is off the table what else can you do to help him feel more free.
I know how easy it is to say I would never..... In the past these words have always come back to bite me in the butt. I know sometimes the otions seem limited. Take a breath and get creative. Tell him getting rid of the dog is NOT an option. After all this is a partnership. Now that getting rid of the dog is off the table what else can you do to help him feel more free.
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