I need help. This is killing me!!

[EAO76]

Hanley, I don't think they make guys like that in Texas. I've been with him almost 6 1/2 years.

Good men are in TX and everywhere else you just have to be a strong enough woman to hold out for one and not settle. And you shouldn’t blame his selfishness on his career, my husband is a cop and he spends his days with the scum of the earth and still is the sweetest most caring person I have ever met.

There is no flipping way I'd get rid of my dog for because my BF wanted to be able to spend more time with his motorcycle. If this guy loved you he wouldn’t be willing to make you suffer just so he can go on a cruise or a vacation once a year. That’s not an excuse to get rid of a pet, like another post stated you could find a dog sitter. This sounds more like a control or mind game type of an issue; like he’s trying to prove to himself how much you love him by forcing you to choose between him and the dog. He’s probably subconsciously jealous of the dog because he sees how much you love him.

This whole thread makes me sick to my stomach, no wonder why there are so many dogs in the rescues and shelters…

 

[Louise501]

If I had to choose between a man and any of my boxers, sorry but he'd be gone. What a horrible situation, I really hope you don't give Buddy up

 

[ZoeRestorick]

My story, FYI...

Faye,

I've been through this once myself and I chose Isis over the boyfriend - seriously. I realized that a man who truly loves me would never ask me to give up my baby whom I ADORE more than anything else in the world. My ex BF turned out to be extremely self-centered and emotionally immature although he was 5 years older than me. He had a daughter that I made every effort to love and treat as my family but he could not do the same for me and my Isis.

It took me years to get over him (I thought I was in love with him)
but eventually I did and now am married to the sweetest, most loving man who adores my baby girl as much as I do. My family lives in a different city so we drive there to leave Isis with my parents, and then fly out from there when we travel. We also use our veterinarian to board Isis if it's only for one
or two nights. There are also dog walkers that you can hire to come in during the day; you just need to interview a few until you find someone you like and can trust.

I hope that you have the strength to make the right decision for yourself and for your precious boy. Good luck.

Zoe

 

[Donna1969]

I have to ask..would he also want you to get rid of a human baby that was "cramping" his style? If I read correctly this man was the one who brought Buddy into the house?? If thats the case how dare he decide its time to rid himself of Buddy?!!

My hubby, not an animal lover in any way shape or form, got on a rampage one time about the animals (at the time we only had Blizzy and the 2 kitties). He wanted the cats gone and said he was taking them to the Humane Society if he couldn't find someone to take them! A little bit of info..HE was the one that decided that a kitten should be brought into the home..and HE was the one who decided not to take just one but BOTH that were still there! So how dare he get on MY case about fur etc??!! Told him, there are lots of doors in this house..and they all open OUT just as well as they do in..so if he didn't like the animals..pick one of the doors and SEE YA!

You mentioned this was an on again/off again relationship..lets say you do place Buddy somewhere else and your relationship goes to the off again phase..you'd want to kill!

Blizzy was a hard one to kennel when we went on vacation (no one was available to watch her and those that were I'd not trust to watch fish!) She hated the kennel..didn't eat much..but she did eat when she was hungry. Buddy WILL eat when he's hungry..he won't let himself starve. Why not try kenneling him at the vets office (my vet now and the ones I've used in the past all had kenneling available). With Blizz at the vets office, they were able to keep an eye on her food/water intake and should she really go into a bad depression or whatever, they could treat her...that might be an option for Buddy.

I can only say I think if you place Buddy somewhere else you will FOREVER hold it against your BF and resent him for it..which will lead to the end of your relationship.

Never ever let someone else give you an ultimatium! I'd tell him, Buddy stays, YOU go..then he plenty of time to ride his bike etc with no dog or gf to cramp his style.

 

[Maniago]

My DH would listen to me and never ask me to give up any of my babies. He knows how much that would hurt.

That is what a relationship is all about. What is your BF going to do if you have children? They will certainly cramp his style

 

[fayebay1969]

My daughter is not his and is 18 years old. She's going through the "I'm 18 and don't need you for anything except money" phase. She lives in Louisiana with the rest of my family. My bf has been working days and nights for several days in a row and I'm thinking that has something to do with all of this. I'm not doing anything now. If he brings it up again, I will say something. He's off during the day with me tomorrow so we will see what happens. Thanks everyone for your support. I don't know what I'd do without this site and all of y'all. I'm going to look into boarding fees at my vets office just to see what I'm facing if it's an option. I"ll keep you posted.

 

[atlasmom911]

I am so sorry you are going through this. Just try to talk to your BF and maybe everything will work out. Sending you lots of positive <<<vibes>>>...Linda

 

[SILLY6PAK]

You just cannot give up Buddy for someone else. What will be next? Where is his feelings for you? Also if the dog adores him as much as you say and he still can turn a cold sholder then that is a huge red flag. Do not put all your eggs in this mans basket because he will hurt you.
My husband LOVES LOVES to travel but often we have to change plans because of the animals. The horses and dogs are my passion and he loves me enough to honor the commitment we made to them. This is not a Boxer thing you are talking about this is a humanity issue.

I feel so sorry for you because the relationship cannot be healthy if it has you making decisions that tear you up so. Now if you are also tired of the amount of commitment need to look after an animal then that is totally different.

I have grown up in an abusive family. been in abusuve relationships rather than being alone. Trust me the right man is out there. I found one and I know you can but you have to require more of those you are with and love you.

 

[sierra1girli]

hi sierra1girli

Hi fayebay1969, my name is Sherry, I have a boxer, female fawn color that I ahev had her for 8 years now and would not part with her for anything or anybody, I don't think you should give up Buddy, he will end up being your best friend through thick and thin, he will be the one you can get unconditional love from, no strings attached, and the one you can talk to while you help your daughter go through her situation. I know my Sierra is my bestest friend and there has been many a time in the last 8 years when I myself have gone through some though times and she was there for me. So tell the bf to deal with it and not be so selfish, your boxer is part of your family now, not just a pet you get rid of for no real legitimate reason. All I can say is my Sierra is my world and I would tell anyone to take a hike if I was put in the same situation, Buddy will always be there for you, bf's are a dime a dozen. Hope this helps, good luck iwth your decision. i hope you make the right one.
Sierra1girlie

 

[sminoleboxer]

COWBOY UP! You're from Texas so you know what I'm talking about