I need help. This is killing me!!

[fayebay1969]

My bf is feeling pinned down lately. We can't do things we used to do or go places we used to go since we got Buddy. He just got a new motorcycle and wants to go on long rides. When he works his off-duty job, I have to rearrange my work schedule to stay with Buddy, otherwise he'd be alone for 8 hours. I can't leave my job once I'm there. I don't want to give him up but my bf told me today that I have to find someone for him. This is killing me and all I've done is cry since he said it. I feel sick to my stomach knowing how sad both he and I will be. He's just sitting here looking at me, not knowing why I'm crying. I don't want to give him up to a rescue because he wouldn't make it. We have spoiled him rotten and it's going to take someone special to take him. He sleeps with us and has the run of the house. He's really a good boy. He doesn't chew on stuff that's not his, he behaves and listens very well. He doesn't counter-surf and if made to lay down, he waits until you're done eating before he gets his scraps. He eats every meal with us and gets every snack that I eat. He loves to play in the water and go swimming. He's still afraid of the boat but will lay in my lap until we dock so he can swim. He pulls me on the leash and basically still acts like a puppy when approached by another dog or human. He still needs some training there because he's not broke of jumping fully either. Still, I couldn't have asked for a better dog. He's up to date on all of his shots and I just ordered his new pack of Frontline Plus. He'll be 1 year old on August 12. I'm going through alot with my daughter right now and I don't have any clue as to how I can deal with this too. This is so aweful....My heart is breaking and he has no idea why.

 

[SandyHG55654]

I'm so sorry for your situation! I'm so upset just reading this I can't imagine what you must be going through! Is there really no other choice? Can you Bf be bribed? I'd be thinking of everything! I'm sure you have. I hope you find someone for your dear sweet boy. :(

 

[MxRxSth]

I am absolutely in SHOCK what I just read and still can't believe what I have read. After all the wonderful posts that I have read that you have written about Buddy and how much you love him and all the wonderful things about him and how great he makes you feel that you have to give him up mainly because of your BF?

I honestly do not know what to say. Just remember you have raised Buddy for who he has turned out to be and isn't there anyway for you and your BF to compromise? I just can't get over that he told you that Buddy needs to go since he knows how much you love him.

My heart is broke now just reading your post.

 

[Maxwell's Ma]

Faye,

I am so saddened by your post. I can't imagine how you are feeling. I just don't think this is fair of your BF. I hope you can work this out with him. I would be so mad he gave me this choice. It is just not fair to Buddy or to you.

 

[SILLY6PAK]

Do not let the dog go it will hurt your relationship with your BF worse than anything. You will resent the bf. How could you not? The bf needs to grow up. Is he the right guy for you? He wants to bail on the dog in less than a year? Sorry but what does that say about him. Big red flag to me.

I so hope you can work out a comprimise. Maybe the bf was just having a bad moment and didn't mean it. Either way you owe it to Buddy to fight for him!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[fayebay1969]

He is a hard man. I think it comes with the job. Surely he can't really think of him as just a dog! I know he loves Buddy too, more than he realizes. But, before he went to work tonight, he wouldn't even pet him. It's like he's trying to distance himself already. He's not the kind of man you can bribe. (unless I win the lottery) I wonder if he's going through the change of life or something. He's been wanting to take me on a cruise and on other trips but we don't go because of Buddy. We can't board him because he won't eat if we aren't there. He's just getting to where he'll eat a little bit now before we get home if it's been awhile. I think he knows we'll be home soon. We don't have people we trust to come let him out while we are gone. We haven't put the fence up in the backyard yet. So, he only gets to play while one of us is home. We make it a point not to be gone longer than a few hours. My bf has to have outpatient surgery on the 12th for the cancer spot on his ear. He'll be off work for a couple weeks. I'm not sure what will happen during that time. God, why did ever get him if he even thought this day might come?!

 

[MxRxSth]

He may be a hard man as you put it but you can also be a Strong Woman in my opinion if need be and I know that you love Buddy to pieces and I am sure you love your BF as well but I am sorry...I just could and would not do it.

I agree with SILLY6PAK that if you find a new home for Buddy it is going to strain your relationship and how long have you been with this man if I may ask?

 

[fayebay1969]

We've been together a total of 6 years now. We were off and on for a bit and have been living together again since August of last year. My heart is breaking. I can't do this. I am a strong person and if you knew the crap I'm dealing with from my daughter, you'd really understand that how strong I am but I can't deal with both right now. I just quit smoking in November and you have no idea how close I live to a store. There's very little keeping me from it. I'm too old to do this crap. Life shouldn't be this hard.

 

[LilygirlCO]

How sad!! Can't you guys hire a dog walker or something like that? Whenever we have to leave the dogs for a long day, we hire a dog walker and the dogs LOVE it. There's also alternatives to boarding. A lot of dog walkers will watch your dog for you, whether it is at your place or theres. The nice thing is if you use them for dog walking, your dog is use to them and trusts them, therefore should eat for them.

 

[Maxwell's Ma]

If he is the one than talk with him. Tell him how you feel and how this is killing you. Talk to him about all the added stress this is putting on you. He may be going through things but so are you. You need him to lean on. He needs to be your soft place to fall. If he isn't then and only give alternatives than you have to ask yourself "Is he the one?"

My DH would listen to me and never ask me to give up any of my babies. He knows how much that would hurt.