How do you prepare someone for this?

[KCboxer4]

When we lost Dylan 10 months ago, I thought I'd die, sometimes I think I still will. BUT. The lessons we received from that little boy...........don't worry about dirty floors, hairs on the couch, a car that looks like a roving dog kennel, what 3am looks like, i cherish every mineute with my two other girls, and sometimes 3 am is very calming and peaceful, even if I do have to get up at 5. Just enjoy! we can't change any of it anyhow.

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[duke_n_mason]

I too have these feelings. Both of my babies are 5. Duke I have had since he was a puppy and am closer to him, I think because he was my first dog. When I think of him passing on I get very emotional. I don’t know what I will do with out my babies. I mean I know that I will go on, but it’s so hard to imagine life with out them. I once heard George Carlin say that buying an animal is like buying a small tragedy. And it’s just so true. And what do we do? We go and buy another one. Why? Cause it is sooo worth it. All we can do is enjoy what we have and enjoy what we had. No matter how hard it is and no matter how much the pain is, we will carry on.

 

[Moonietx]

I really agree with all the posts on here. If your Boxer is healthy enjoy her everyday. I went through a terrible year with my Boxer when I was young. He started having fits once in while, then they became more and more frequent. He was a tough guy, it would stun him for an hour then he would be back to his mad Boxer ways. But at the end the Vet advised us to let him go the bridge, he was having fits almost everyday at the end. It was one of the hardest things I have ever been through, me and my Mum and Dad were all there giving him his send off. We know it was right but it doesn't make it easier.

Sammy I miss you!!!!!

 

[CONNEE BROWN]

Scared

I did not know whether to post this here but I am new to boxerworld. My partner and I have a 1yo fawn girl, I have had dogs in the past before we met each other however he has not. I have said goodbye many times and although it is hard each and everytime you have to let a part of you go, it becomes that wee bit easier to manage your feelings.
My partner is so in love with our wee girl but its seems he is constantly scared that today could be the day he has to let his baby go. I honestly do not think he could deal with something like this on his own but I dont know how to prepare someone for the possibility bcos I am so used to having to just look after myself.

I READ YOUR COMMENTS. I HAD MY FIRST BOXER (AND FIRST DOG) 1988. SHE WAS A BEAUTIFUL FAWN FEMALE WHICH WE HAD SPAYED. SHE WAS A PET NOT A SHOW DOG (ALTHOUGH SHE COULD HAVE BEEN A SHOW DOG.) NO CROPPING OF EARS...AND OBEDIENCE SCHOOL FOR 6 WKS WAS IT. SHE LIVED 9 YEARS WITH US. SHE DIED A HORRIBLE DEATH. CANCER A HUGH GROWTH IN HER CHEST( AND TO THIS DAY I RESEARCH HOW COULD IT HAPPEN) I LOVED HER BEYOND WHAT I CAN EVEN EXPLAIN IN THIS RESPONSE. JUST WANTED TO TOUCH BASE WITH YOU.....

 

[CONNEE BROWN]

Roxie

When we lost Dylan 10 months ago, I thought I'd die, sometimes I think I still will. BUT. The lessons we received from that little boy...........don't worry about dirty floors, hairs on the couch, a car that looks like a roving dog kennel, what 3am looks like, i cherish every mineute with my two other girls, and sometimes 3 am is very calming and peaceful, even if I do have to get up at 5. Just enjoy! we can't change any of it anyhow.

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Roxie-ann
Maya-angelou
and Dylan michael Mommy & Daddys forever angel

WHAT A GOOD WAY TO LOOK AT THE FUTURE. I LOST MY LITTLE GIRL ROXIE AFTER 9 YRS. I THOUGHT LIFE COULD NOT GO ON... I FOUND A LITTLE 6 MONTH OLD BOXER (DEAF) NO ONE WANTED SHE IS NOW 7 YRS OLD SHE IS THE BEST. YOU CAN'T BEAT A BOXER NO MATTER WHAT THE CHALLENGE....
THANKS
CB

 

[TYS0NSM0MMA]

I understand what your partner is going through. I went through the same thing EXACTLY, I was very close to my dog Barry and always had a feeling that something would happen to him to cut his life short. My father used to get so upset at me for being 'negative' in the end I was right both Barry and his sister Roxy died in a house fire last year, they hadn't reached 5 years old. Something inside me always knew that something would happen, I have had this once before in my life. When I was very small after my parents divorced and after my father's first girlfriend and him separated I had a feeling that I had a sister I didn't know... and I did. Some people are sensitive to these things and when you love someone or something so much and have these feelings/fears its hard to listen to others get mad at you for seeming 'negative' I am by no means a negative person, I think I am a sensitive person. The important thing to remember that despite having these feelings is that he needs to know that you have her today, so enjoy today like it is the last day with her.

I regretted and still do going out as often as I did without Barry and Roxy with me, not spending as much time with them as I could have (I was only just 21 when they died and was only 16 1/2 when we got them). We loved them dearly and it saddens me everyday that they are gone, but you have the opportunity to learn and teach your partner this. Enjoy what you have today because you may not have it tomorrow. Walk her everyday, walk her TWICE, play lots, cuddle her and talk to her, enjoy her for her and don't try to change it. I live by this now with my 2, we take naps together, go shopping together (except groceries! Hubby stays home with them) we walk atleast twice daily morning and night. I gave them a dog door so they have freedom, they are both rescues and I think about Barry and Roxy every day and thank them for sending me Tyson and Sable. I never take a day with them for granted and hug them and tell them that I love them and always will many times throughout the day.

Trust me, looking back and regretting is the worst, take my advice I lost so much to gain that knowledge. Reassure your partner that it is OK to worry SOMETIMES, but its not OK to dwell and fret. Love your girl and remember my words.

Colly

 

[Alidog]

Thankyou Thankyou

Thankyou all so much for your kind words. I am so sorry for those of you who have lost loved ones, I can only remember what you have been through but I cant imagine what it is like to say goodbye to a boxer. Someone once said to me that "once you love a boxer, you'll never love another animal" and that is too true. I have never known what it is like to feel so close to an animal and when I see the look in her dads eyes whenever he looks at her it makes me so happy.
She has bought SO much joy into my life and I swear that she knows JUST how im feeling. When im upset she'll look straight into my eyes and just be gentle with me, I think she is my little guardian angel. I dont think my partner has ever experienced these sorts of feelings before and being such a rugged guy, I know he loves her when I see that look in his eyes.

Thankyou all for your words, I know that none of us here are alone

 

[Julie P.]

It has been hard to reply to this post even though I have wanted to. I just lost my boxer, Magic, in September. It has been a long and hard grieving process for me and I have gone through many challenges since her death. I love Magic so very much and miss her more than words could ever say. If I had any advice to give to a person who has never lost a best friend, I would say “Love” is the answer. I know with out a doubt, that I gave Magic my very best. Knowing that I gave her my best has helped me when ugly doubts, fears and guilt about her death creep into my mind. It is so hard to loose something you love so much. I never thought I would be living the life I live now without my Magic. Now, here I am each day living my new life. Life is so odd.

 

[Alidog]

Could you tell me more about magic, what she was like, her favourite things to do, your memories of her? I understand that you miss her deeply and that you are experiencing great loss, I would love to hear about how much joy she brought to your life and much she affected you. I can see she was a special animal and my thoughts are with you

 

[Julie P.]

Sorry I wrote such a long one.

Alidog,

Thanks for asking about Magic; I never miss an opportunity to talk about her. Magic was a lady; she had a gentle way about her. She seemed to have a huge respect for boundaries and hated breaking the rules. She loved babies and small pets (like hamsters and kittens). And missed our pets for weeks if something happen to them. She would look for them in all the places that she remembered them to be. She loved her toys and took such good care of them. When she passed away, she still had some of the toys that she got when I first brought her home. Her favorite toy was the size of a 50-cent piece. It was a cat toy with fur. The fur would stick to her lips and she would toss it into the air. I loved gardening with her. Sometimes, Magic would take long sniffs of flowers; she loved my lavender plants. When I called her, she would come to me with out a stitch of hesitation. I trusted her judgment outside and inside the house and knew that Magic would stay by my side because she wanted to not because she had to. I can think of a million little lady-like things that she use to do but the one I loved the most was her true and sweet friendship. She was such a joy to be with. Magic seemed to love her spot in the family...as if it was a special spot just for her. I never had to force her to do anything, she always seemed to love being my friend ...she was truly my best friend and it came totally from her heart.

Once again, thanks so much for asking about Magic. It has only been three months since I last held her. Sometimes the three months seem like years.