Uh-oh, I guess I'm a "housewife" now

[Julie Davis]

I posted not long ago that I was quitting my job to stay home. Well, the deed is done, and I am "unemployed" now. I know I won't get bored with three kids, a husband, a cat, and a Boxer, but I worry about feeling, "unimportant" I guess, and I worry that something will be missing (besides my paycheck). Wish me luck in this new endeavor.

 

[buddy'smom]

Hi Julie
Good luck on your new position as Household Engineer!! I too tried the stay at home position for a year and loved it at first. I eventually went back to work, as I wanted the independence of my own paycheck. Now about the feeling of "unimportance", that will only sink in if you allow it. It is usually ourselves who place that feeling upon us.
I think that it is wonderful when a mother can be at home with her children. You are giving your family something that money cannot buy, and that is emotional security. Good for you Julie.
If I can locate the notice I was sent when I was a Household Engineer, I will send it off to you. It breaks down all the positions of a stay at home mom into categories such as nursing care, accountant, etc. and puts a wage to it. Trust me when you see this no husband in the world could afford to pay for what we do!
Congratulations and best wishes!

 

[Badassboxer]

Hey staying at home with the kids is VERY important, I wish more of us were able to do so if we chose to! Congratulations on your new "position!" I seriously doubt if you could feel "unimportant" - with all the responsibility you are carrying! Have fun!

 

[Chinadoll]

I wanted to say condratulations. You will have so
much fun. I love staying at home and never feel
unimportant. If anything you should feel lucky to
be able to stay home. I know I do, I'm only
24 years old and I'm very proud to
see my kids grow everyday and know I was there.
I have 2 children ages 5yrs and 19 months,
then 2 fur babys ages 10 and 11 months.
So there is never a dull
moment at my house. :D

 

[pammyjean]

Congratulations

Hi Julie,
Congratulations, enjoy being at home, when I was at home with my girls, (many years ago) I never felt unimportant, just the opposite. Have fun. :D


Pammyjean and Ginty

 

[JoAnn]

Good for you on being able to stay home with your kids. I use to think I would lose my independence not working, that is why I kept going, now I wish I could quit. I homeschool both my kids and it is hard to work and do both. I mean all I do is throw an afternoon paper route, but it still kind of throws off the day. I am one of those crazy moms that thrives on having her kids with her constantly, I can't imagine not having them near me all the time. So enjoy, they are only little once.

 

[Tararifik]

Congratulations! I have been a stay at home mom for 6 years. I am 25 years old. I have two children a 6 year old girl and a 2 year old boy. I have really enjoyed watching my children grow. However, I am off to work in two weeks. I am excited about the independence and freedom that I so long deserve. My family will always be #1. Unfortunately not everyone gets the credit they deserve. It has been a hard road emotionally and economically but no one can take away the joy that I have recieved from raising my kids. If you get a support group of stay at home mom's it can really benefit you. Good luck.

 

[SandyR]

Hey! congrats on the "promotion" Julie! There is no harder profession than to be a stay at home mom. Nothing unimportant about it.

 

[Elsa]

Good for you!

What a wonderful decision you have made! Yesterday I had a conversation with a friend and the "Six to six" program somehow crept into our conversation; this is the program where kids are in a supervised environment from 6am to 6pm 5 days a week because the parents are working. My response, "Why even have kids?". I know it is nearly impossible for most families to live on one income these days but my brother is the sole provider for his wife and two kids (my younger brother!)and it is very difficult for them but Jessica , my sis in law, does an outstanding job and my friends and I all hold her in high regard for her decision. She is truly a saint, but mostly for putting up with my brother.
My friends and I all talk about how wonderful it was having our moms at home when we were growing up; your children will remember this and look back fondly.

 

[Lava Linda]

I would, if I could, with no hesitation!!!!! Once you have children, there is no more important job than parenting, in my opinion. I have two sons, three years apart. I was fortunate enough to stay at home for 18 months when I had my first son, but only had 3 months at home with my younger son.
I know there are genetic differences in their personalilies, but my elder son is more stable, independent, self-motivated, and has higher self-esteem. If I had it to do over again, I would NOT buy the house of our dreams while pregnant the second time around. What a mistake. :(