Question for the men???

[Austin's Mom]

Geez and they say women are fickle. Don't let this guy walk all over you. I'm here today and gone tomorrow, back the next day. NOT. When my hub and I were married a few years he came back from a trip and I could tell by his reaction when he saw me something wasn't right. He proceded to take me to dinner to tell me that he was "just content" in our relationship and wanted that "excitement" again. I said fine. But any relationship you're in the excitement eventually fades to contentment. I didn't want to be with anyone who didn't want to be with me. We will celebrate our 11th wedding anniv. next month. I really hope this works out for you, if not we're all here for you.

Chris

 

[ToksImg]

Things like this really chap me. Put his *ss to the curb! Tell him you've made up his mind for him. If he wanted to live a little then he should have did it before he said, "I do." I got married two years ago on the 29th of June and it was because I wanted to start a new chapter in my life, a chapter that includes my wife who I love very much and all the up and downs that come with it. I still live life, but I now do it with my soulmate, together.

I'm here to tell you, you may think a sunset is the most beautiful thing in the world, but wait until you experience your first sunset when your loving wife takes your hand and tells you she loves you; well, you can have your living, becasue I've got Heaven.

If he doesn't know this by now, he never will!

 

[kelseighgirl]

Sara,
I am sorry to hear that things still arent going well with Dan.
The only advise I can give you is to take care of "You" first. If you dont no one else will.

Hang in there girlfriend!!
Hugs to you and Clover!!

Robin, Kelseigh and Justice

 

[Clover's Mom]

You guys are going to probably laugh as much as I did about this - Dan calls into work today to SCREAM at me that the flowers are dead, then proceeds to scream and tell me I did it on purpose...WHAT?! I haven't been home and even if I was taking care of his flowers would of been the last thing of my mind - he just assumed that since he wasn't there I would take care of HIS flowers to be spitful! What?! Isn't he the one that wants a new life, and to be single - so welcome to being single...now if he would of asked me to take care of his flowers I would of, but he didn't, it didn't dawn on me...I couldn't believe it. I just sat there stunned! Then he grilled me as to where I was staying, and why wasn't I home while he was gone - then claimed we wouldn't be able to talk tonight about things because it would take him a week to get over the dead flowers! I tell ya...it's gotten pretty darn ugly...

 

[kelseighgirl]

OMG.....I think he needs medication!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Run as far as you can from this relationship while the gettin' is good.

 

[ladyluck_t]

At this point, i think i would tell him that it was ok he didnt want to talk tonight, or for the rest of the week and then i would say that it will give you enough time to clean all your stuff out of the house. He obviously doesnt care about your pain and confusion, so send him packing! (guess my irish is showing through here ) it is hard, trust me i know. the hardest thing i have ever had to do in my life is walk away from my ex. that first time. (it took a couple of times before i finally stayed away) I felt like such a failure. but i have learned that even though my marriage didnt work out, i am not a failure. it was a learning experience. you need a great big hug! be strong and do what you think is best for YOU in the future.

Good luck and great big hugs from katie and me!

Carolyn

 

[frankied]

Ok seriously?! He cares more about the flowers than your relationship. I agree with Carolyn's post above mine. He isn't worth the trouble, I mean look at his priorities? He wants to be single, then he does not have the right to grill you about where you have been and what you are up to.

Christa

 

[DanCat]

You guys are going to probably laugh as much as I did about this - Dan calls into work today to SCREAM at me that the flowers are dead, then proceeds to scream and tell me I did it on purpose...WHAT?! I haven't been home and even if I was taking care of his flowers would of been the last thing of my mind - he just assumed that since he wasn't there I would take care of HIS flowers to be spitful! What?! Isn't he the one that wants a new life, and to be single - so welcome to being single...now if he would of asked me to take care of his flowers I would of, but he didn't, it didn't dawn on me...I couldn't believe it. I just sat there stunned! Then he grilled me as to where I was staying, and why wasn't I home while he was gone - then claimed we wouldn't be able to talk tonight about things because it would take him a week to get over the dead flowers! I tell ya...it's gotten pretty darn ugly...

Maybe the new life he is looking for is under the "rainbow".

 

[2BoxersnOhio]

He's gonna try to string you along as far and as much as he possibly can before it breaks and you go tumbling. He wants to see how far he can take it. He's like a child and pushing buttons right now.

Been there done that. I've been divorced since May of 95 and my ex STILL tries to tell me what to do here and there and still thinks he knows me better than anyone else on this planet.

Dan is going to tell you how high to jump until you tell him KISS MY A$$ go jump off yourself! I mean really.. how asinine is that to come home and scream at you about HIS flowers that HE left behind. Did he bother to see how YOU were.. he did leave you behind also. Honestly.. when he starts in on a stupid tyrant like that again.. hang up. Calmly say goodbye and hang the phone up. If he calls back yelling about you hanging up on him, hang up again. Eventually he'll get the hint that this is what he wanted and if he wants to turn his own world upside down.. he doesn't necessarily have to do it to yours at the same time. You can handle it yourself, he doesn't need to help.

 

[JennieWI]

next time Dan screams at you, you may want to suggest he get some therapy. His behavior reminds me a lot of my exhusband. Some people have problems that really have nothing to do with the relationship, yet they strike out at those who love them. I wasn't able to leave my ex until I finally lost my respect for him. How can you respect a guy that's screaming about dead flowers while you are obviously in pain and turmoil over your relationship with him? I wish you the best of luck.