Put Clem down last night, now what?

[CTteach1331]

I wrote my story under the topic of seizures....well, Clem had an MRI to see what was going on and he wouldn't breathe on his own afterwards...the Neurologist said he had a brain tumor that herniated and damaged about 1/4 of his brain, the damaged part is in control of your breathing :( I'm such a wreck and I don't know what to do without my best friend, he helped me through heart ache and sickness......I just loved him more than anything....I just couldn't bear to see him in anymore pain....after the vet gave "the shot" I hugged him for a half hour, I couldn't let go of him at all......I just couldn't, I felt like I killed my dog and now was abandoning him, crying here.....crying all the time...woke up at 6:30 and cried, went back to sleep where I could be numb and "forget"....I just kept telling him that "Grandma, Grandpa, Uncle Ron, Uncle Rick, Brett and me, we all love him so much and how he was such a good dog. He'll see my childhood dog and play together....:( I'm just so sad....he was only 4, going to be 5 in Jan.

:( now what?

Robyn...Mommy to Clem forever.....

p.s. my boyfriend and I bought a fawn boxer 6 years ago, we broke up, in that time I got Clem then we got back together, so Buddy and Clem were friends and now Buddy doesn't know where Clem is, it's very sad, I had to tell him that Clem was sick and isn't coming back :( I don't know how I feel about Buddy playing with Clem's toys or sleeping in his crate :( help...

 

[johann]

No advice, but my heart is breaking for you. :( :( Rest in peace Clem.

So sorry for your loss.

 

[Althea]

Now you have to give yourself time to grieve. :( I know how hard it is. I lost my Cairo in February of this year. Thought I'd die along with her. And it is a grieving period, and nothing makes it easier, per se, except to cry and mourn their loss as they deserve.

My thoughts are with you.

 

[nalabear]

i am so sorry. loosing your beloved pet so quickly is very hard. we had a 4 yr old kitty who one day was fine and the next day we had to put her down. we felt so guilty. we felt it was our fault. it wasn't but it still hurt so bad. what got me through was just letting it all out. crying when i needed to cry. being held and comforted by my loved ones helped and really loving our other cats and showering them with loads of affection. of course you can imagine how that went over :D

Clem wouldn't want the toys to go to waste. but you have to be ok with it too. Give yourself some time its ok to not know what to do you'll figure it out when its time. also buddy is going to mourn also. helping him through this transition may help you too. he will need your love, attention and understanding.

my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[BingsDad]

Feel better soon

Sorry that you lost your pal, Clem. It sucks, I know. Nothing to do now but feel what you're feeling. Let it all hang out. It will get better after a week or so. When I put Bing down last February, I held his head and looked into his eyes, telling him how much I love him, etc as he passed on. I'm a man, and I took it like a champ - even smiled at the Vet when it was done, saying "Is that it?" Then I got in my car, drove home, walked through the door and proceeded to cry like a baby - . And I cried again - then again some more. You just take all the time you need to feel what you feel, darlin'. It will get better in time. Of course nothing can take the place of your pal Clem, but perhaps you may have a new pup to look forward to at some point. Best wishes.

 

[Bullenbeisse]

Im right there with you.

 

[Lisa H]

I have no advice for you but I want you to know that you are in our thoughts and our prayers. Both you and Clem were very lucky to have each other for those four years. He would not want you to be sad. He will always live in your heart. Hugs!

Lisa and Justice

 

[doodlesmom]

i have no advice for you but i want you to know that you are in our thoughts and our prayers. Both you and clem were very lucky to have each other for those four years. He would not want you to be sad. He will always live in your heart. Hugs!

Lisa and justice

im soooo sorry about your loss......dont think for one second that there are people who dont understand....anyone who owns a boxer def. Understands, sending lots of xoxoxoxoxssss to you

 

[Lizzie]

I am so sorry for your loss. You do need to give yourself time to grieve. Thinking of you.

 

[Gatorblu]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a special dog. It'll be 2 yrs on the 22nd that my Star passed. I still cry at times, but mostly I smile or laugh now when I think of her. The pain does become more bareable, and the fond memories shine thru. It will take time, but it does get better. You need to give yourself time to grieve.

I don't know how I feel about Buddy playing with Clem's toys

As for Buddy playing with Clem's toys, maybe keep one special toy away from him. Something that has an extra fond memory for you, and let him have the rest. I'm sure when Clem was around she would play with both Buddy and the toys, so why stop sharing now.

God bless Clem, he is pain and seizure free and running at the bridge with other special boxers.