need alot of support just can't handel how i feel(long)

[reweima]

ok so i've been out with my bf for a year and 8 month now and things were just going wonderfull but lately i was feeling just a bit suspicious over some girls he's talking to and actually we've had one big fight over lying to me about things well anyways last thursday as i was just going through something on his lap top i got curious and checked his messenger history (not a good thing.. i know but he wasn't talking and i just kept feeling i was being fed too many lies) what i found was that he was flirting with 2 girls and actually going out with a third taking her to places that were special to us. needless to say i got furious for quite sometime and thought i'd just leave but after thinking i found that i still cared about him and that i can find in my heart the ability to forgive what happened and try to get through this as he said that that was just a mistake that went to far and he don't know why he did that....... anyway we took 3 days of talking that ended in me being able to forgive and try to work things out but he said he needed a week's break to arrange his thoughts since then his friends been telling me how much he hates him self for doing this to me and he doesn't have the strength to face me after what he did well i forcefully agreed on the break although i didn't like it now i feel hurt and lonly and all alone in this and i'm just really lost i don't know what to do the last time we talked was sunday night and this break thing is really harming me i just don't know

 

[dharmadoodle]

I do believe in second chances, but I hate liars.

Trust is a serious issue & once it's gone it's extremely hard to regain.

I always say that when someone cheats on you it's not personal, it's just because somewhere inside of them they have a void.

Love hurts, we all know this. You are learning lessons right now whether or not you choose to see them right now.

Sometimes we forgive because it's easier on our hearts, but the ache that you feel can be prolonged if you take the wrong road & stay with someone you know deep down you can never really forgive.

I'm sorry for your pain, but I feel that in your current situation you probably only want to hear that everything will be okay with him from now on.

Just remember the old saying, 'There are plenty more fish in the sea'.

Don't sell yourself short.

It's a tough call because it's heart vs head time, & us human beings like to take the easy route everytime - even if it's not doing us any good.

 

[My Samson]

I agree with dharmadoodle. She gave you some very wise advice that may not be what you want to hear right now.

Relationships are tough but you must keep in mind that you deserve someone who will be faithful and loving towards you. No one deserves to be cheated on or lied to.

I think the break is probably a good thing. It'll give each of you a chance to realize what you want - and you must prepare yourself for him to possibly feel different than you.

I'm a firm believer in the saying that 'every thing happens for a reason'. No matter how things turn out - you'll be ok! I know it may not seem like it now but trust me...

Keep your chin up and remember that 'what doesn't kill you - only makes you stronger'.

 

[boxer]

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