Intimacy

[dmartin]

This is so embarressing. I sure need any advice you can give. Cheetah, who is 1 year old and 65lbs has been sleeping with DH and I since she was a pup.
We love her dearly...but in hind sight..we should have never allowed her in our bed in the first place! My DH and I are losing our ...intimacy at night. When we do shoo her out of our bedroom and close the door for a little time together...she whines, barks, scratches at our door...until we finally give in and let her in. Of course...the romance is pretty much gone by then. We are such whimps! We are going to have to permenately "boot" her out of bed. Has anybody been through this before? Any suggestions? She has completely destroyed her last three beds and has graduated out of the crate. Thanks...Cheetah's Mom

 

[Clover's Mom]

I'm with you there - except Clover is 8 months. What we do is, coax her out of the bed with a treat, then place another one on her bed or floor, then give her a chewie...we got back to bed, wait, she then tries to get into bed, we tell her "no bed" then we wait 2 more mins, tell her again, she usually gets the hint then, and lies on the floor....

You could try not kicking her out of the bedroom, but making her lie on the floor in the bedroom...

Just a thought.

 

[jodiandmatti]

Actually, I haven't exactly went through the same thing... per say, however, when I stay at my BF's house, he only has a double. We have 3 dogs now... Sadie (a 3yr old pit), my mattie (11 mo. old boxer) and now Sinatra (a 9 week old boxer). Anyways, prior to getting sinatra, mattie and sadie would sleep on the double bed with us EVERY night. We would wake up with hurting backs, or just freezing because they are cover hogs. SO, Sinatra is being crate trained right now and he sleeps in his cage. Mattie and Sadie, well, we invested in a puppy gate and ended up gating sadie and mattie off, they are still in the bedroom, but in the hallway in between the door and the entrance of the room... with a comforter to sleep on. Mattie whined and whined the first couple of nights but everything is ok now. I say just getting used to not being in there is going to be the only problem.. and trust me ... you are talking to the softest of the softies.... it is not easy. But I get MUCH better sleep now !! Hope this helps
Jodi

 

[Coco'smommy]

We have this trouble too. Not because Coco sleeps on the bed but because she can't seem to just lie down and behave. I"m sorry I realize she's a dog but I have issues when she's sitting there STARING at me and whining like she's gonna jump up on the bed. It's kind of distracting. We tried booting her out but she also sits at the door and scratches and cries. We have two skinkids too so the door HAS to be shut. We tried putting her downstairs in her crate, she cries cause she knows we're up there. So...the only solution we came up with is to put in her son's room to sleep when we need some alone time. I swear between the kids and the dog...it's such a pain, we have no spontianity anymore. I hate that.....I pray for the day I am able to have it again. It's not a lot of fun to have to plan your intimacy. I try to rationalize it by saying...well you chose to have kids, you chose to have a pet (who is just like our third child) so you have to deal with it. We manage but it's a chore sometimes.

 

[Kbryant]

I guess I'm lucky in this respect. Both my dogs sleep on the bed but when we are "busy" they completely ignore us! i remember Cleo tried to come over once and DH said to "leave it" LOL and she never came near us again. I suppose it's over so fast, it's not a big deal! LOL LOL My DH would kill me if he read this! LOL LOL

 

[Ali_Crazy]

I"m sorry I realize she's a dog but I have issues when she's sitting there STARING at me and whining like she's gonna jump up on the bed. It's kind of distracting.

I totally agree with you on that one!! We normally coax him out with a treat and give him some toys. Most of the time he ends up coming back to the door whining, but when we dont let him in he gets frustrated and sleeps on the couch!!

 

[JennieWI]

yeah. I get hints from the BF about this, too. It's not really a problem for me (did I just say that?) Gunther sleeps in between us. However, Gunther sleeps like a rock and not too much will wake him up when he's out. The other advantage we have is that usually Gunther starts out sleeping in his own bed and then hops into our bed after we're asleep.

 

[Putermom]

Sorry, not much help here. Otis is usually sleeping with one or the other of his skin-siblings (he switches beds during the night). If he's in with us, he sleeps on his big fluffy pillow on the floor, next to my side of the bed.

 

[shmrkdncr]

Lmao!!!

Well It's hard to give advice when cuddling with a puppy is to much fun, but on the other hand intelligent dogs learn so quickly ! they do it once and then to them it's ok from then on . Your best bet is to slowly coax your girl out of your room instead of kicking her straight out . I would make it more fun for her to be on the floor or in the hall then on the bed (toys, treats ect.) and not give her luxury of the bed but that's me . she will sooner rather than later get the hint that being with her stuff in her crate or floor or wherever is much better than being in the bed when your trying to get a little .
On another note my parents had a Saint and she had been raised in an abusive home before my parents bought her . let's just say she was big!!!! bigger than any of our boys! but she slept in between my parents LOL but if anyone raised there voice for any reason or looked like anything violent ( intimate) she flipped out and got in between them . but never did anything other than try to breaK it up . . well she earned her place in our family when my mom went into diabetic coma on the floor of our house and she laid on top of my mom for hours to keep her warm before my dad came home from work and found my mom . paramedics told him if mave hadn't kept my mom warm and licked her she would have died . I guess she was seriously bonded to my mom . I'm rambling .....sorry.
Just make it positive so she doesn't think what you guys are doing is bad or more fun and she just leaves you alone .

 

[dmartin]

Thanks for all the great advice and I'm going to take you up on it! I'll try coaxing her with treats, toys...comforter...etc..out the door and lock it.
(last time..she turned the knob and opened the door). We have tried keeping her in the room with us on the floor...but she is a light sleeper...and next thing we knew..she had her head resting on the side of the bed watching us.
LOL.....then she wants to get between us..like she does when we just hug....
...I think i'll stop by pet store on the way home...and get her some new toys to try tonight....
I'll let you know how it works out....