Advice asked for, not opinions
I fully expect to get blasted for this response. It won’t be the first time I’ve gone against the tide on this board and it probably won’t be the last. The subject line of Mikejo’s first post says, “
I might have to give Shankly up. Please Advise ”. Mike didn’t say he was/is giving up Shankly, he said might. He didn’t ask for opinions of how we felt about what he thought he “might” have to do. He asked for advice. His very first line says,
I’ve got a massive problem and I could really do with some good advice
In the many, not all but many, of the responses members got on their high horses and preached to Mike instead of giving only the advice for which he had asked. I am not saying that there weren’t many good pieces of advice given. There were. Some of them, the ones without the editorial comments, were probably appreciated. The ones where Mike was berated along with the advice, and some in which he was only berated with no advice given, were, IMO, uncalled for. Do you have the right to your opinions? Absolutely. But that’s not what was asked. His original post clearly shows that he and his wife do love Shankly. His statements, .
This is something I would never think I’d hear myself say.
and,
If I was to have to give her up
, don’t sound to me like someone that doesn’t love their dog. It looks to me like someone who is asking for a way out of doing something that he doesn’t really want to do.
Many of you know of my son’s ongoing battle with leukemia. If Robby’s doctors said that to increase his chances to beat this deadly disease, we would have to give up Dempsey and Marcie, (they haven’t and they won’t so don’t worry) then as much as it would break our hearts we would have to do it. Yes Marcie and Dempsey are part of our family, but as precious as their lives are to us, they pale in comparison to Robby. Those of you that don’t have skin kids can’t possibly, as much as you think you can, understand the difference. This, to me, is the position Mike believes himself to be. Is he really in that position? No, I don’t think he is, but I think that he perceives himself to be. And perception is reality. By that I mean that if you perceive something to be true/real, then to you it is true/real, regardless of whether its true/real or not.
There are women around the world that give up their babies for adoption because they want their babies to have a better life than they can provide. Are these woman evil? Are they immoral? Should they be looked down upon? Of course not. They want what’s best for the child. That’s what Mike wants for Shankly if it comes to that. Going back to his original post he says,
I’d just want to be sure she was going to good home where she would be loved as much as I love her.”
In his second post he says
we love Shankly so very much that we want the best for her we don’t want to get rid of her because she is a hassle to us far from it. We want her to have the highest quality of life possible
This is a couple that wants what is best for their family. Their whole family, including Shankly.
Shame on those of you that couldn’t keep your condescending opinions to yourselves. I don’t think that’s what was called for here. This man just wanted advice. It’s my hope that Mikejo can separate the wheat from the chaff on this post.
Yes these are my opinions, and no Mikejo didn't ask for them but I couldn't allow this nonsense to go on any longer without dishing out some of what was served to Mikejo. This isn't meant for all, but some of you need to realize that the written word doesn't come across the same way the spoken word does. When speaking to someone things are detected from the intonation and tone that are not easily transposed or transcribed into the written word.
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