i have to find a home for my baby
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Charlie'sMom
Boxer Booster
Jo - I have just seen this thread, and am really, really sorry for your terrible situation. At least you know that everyone on this board feels the same as you regarding Maci not being 'just a dog' and will sympathise with you having to seperate from her. Unfortunately we are considering emigrating at the moment, so it would not be fair for us to take Maci in as it would not be a stable home - but I really hope that you can find a resolution soon. I admire you for putting Maci first and toughing it out, despite you predicament, until you find somewhere safe for her.
Regarding your partner reporting her, why don't you try calling both your local police station and also your local dog warden to pre-empt the situation; I know the police are always keen to use the old 'we don't get involved in domestic situations' excuse, but at least if you at least had it noted that a) you were worried your partner may report Maci out of spite, and b) that he was be violent towards you hence there are extenuating circumstances for Maci to protect you, then at least that should stop him being able to report her and would be one weight off your mind.
Has Maci ever been to training classes (I know you have a baby and don't drive so this could be difficult for you)? I just thought that if she hasn't, then her dominance may be down to limited socialisation. If there are any classes near your folks, or even a trainer who could do a couple of one-on-one sessions, then perhaps your folks maybe willing to comprimise. i.e. say let you all move there on the understanding that you will go to training class, and if the situation with their dogs hasn't improved by the start of January then you will try to re-home her. There is a dog that started coming to one of our training classes 2 weeks ago and it was so aggressive towards every dog and just sat in the corner barking the whole class, shielded by a row of chairs, but one week later it just sat quietly, watching what was going on - so in such a short space of time it has made an amazing improvement. Something similar may be possible with Maci with the right help?
Our thoughts are with you, and hope that you find some resolution.
Regarding your partner reporting her, why don't you try calling both your local police station and also your local dog warden to pre-empt the situation; I know the police are always keen to use the old 'we don't get involved in domestic situations' excuse, but at least if you at least had it noted that a) you were worried your partner may report Maci out of spite, and b) that he was be violent towards you hence there are extenuating circumstances for Maci to protect you, then at least that should stop him being able to report her and would be one weight off your mind.
Has Maci ever been to training classes (I know you have a baby and don't drive so this could be difficult for you)? I just thought that if she hasn't, then her dominance may be down to limited socialisation. If there are any classes near your folks, or even a trainer who could do a couple of one-on-one sessions, then perhaps your folks maybe willing to comprimise. i.e. say let you all move there on the understanding that you will go to training class, and if the situation with their dogs hasn't improved by the start of January then you will try to re-home her. There is a dog that started coming to one of our training classes 2 weeks ago and it was so aggressive towards every dog and just sat in the corner barking the whole class, shielded by a row of chairs, but one week later it just sat quietly, watching what was going on - so in such a short space of time it has made an amazing improvement. Something similar may be possible with Maci with the right help?
Our thoughts are with you, and hope that you find some resolution.
Eliot & Co
Boxer Buddy
Hi, I am so sorry to hear about your problem, I know it is not easy for you nor it's going to be easy for your baby. I was away for a couple of weeks and haven't been reading on BW, so only now saw your post. I was thinking about getting another boxer at some point in the future, now not being the best time to do so. I would like to help, but can not make any promises, will run the idea by my partner tonight and will get back to you.
Do you think Maci-May would get along with a 5.5 month old male puppy? I've read that she has dog aggression issues, but gets along with male boxers? Does she have any other problems or medical conditions that we should know before considering to adopt her?
I can not even predict the outcome of my talk with my partner (it's a serious decision and I am not sure if we can take another commitment) and thought about not posting anything until I know if we can do anything to help, but to make a point - keep trying and do not give up hope, I am confident that you will find a good home for your girl, I am sure that there are other people on BW who are yet to read your post and someone will be able to help.
Good luck!
Do you think Maci-May would get along with a 5.5 month old male puppy? I've read that she has dog aggression issues, but gets along with male boxers? Does she have any other problems or medical conditions that we should know before considering to adopt her?
I can not even predict the outcome of my talk with my partner (it's a serious decision and I am not sure if we can take another commitment) and thought about not posting anything until I know if we can do anything to help, but to make a point - keep trying and do not give up hope, I am confident that you will find a good home for your girl, I am sure that there are other people on BW who are yet to read your post and someone will be able to help.
Good luck!
To Elliot and Co and Charlie's Mum
The replies that you guys gave to Maci-May are just typical of this board - everyone is so quick to help each other it, it's really something special. I would love to adopt Maci and have talked to my bf about it but we think that the journey from the UK to Holland would be too much for her and as well our apartment is very small, our boy still very young (8 months) and we have a cat to think about as well. I am going to talk to my sister to see if she will at least think about fostering her for awhile until Jo can find her a forever home but I know she has two cats and am waiting to see if Maci is ok with cats.
I really hope that between us we can find the best solution for Jo and Maci so that everything works out for the best.
I'll keep you updated from my end and will be closely watching the thred for news.
Jo our thoughts are with you....
The replies that you guys gave to Maci-May are just typical of this board - everyone is so quick to help each other it, it's really something special. I would love to adopt Maci and have talked to my bf about it but we think that the journey from the UK to Holland would be too much for her and as well our apartment is very small, our boy still very young (8 months) and we have a cat to think about as well. I am going to talk to my sister to see if she will at least think about fostering her for awhile until Jo can find her a forever home but I know she has two cats and am waiting to see if Maci is ok with cats.
I really hope that between us we can find the best solution for Jo and Maci so that everything works out for the best.
I'll keep you updated from my end and will be closely watching the thred for news.
Jo our thoughts are with you....
Emily_7538
Boxer Insane
I am so sorry!!! I really wish that you didn't have to go through this!!!
Maci-May
Super Boxer
Update (fingers crossed)
Just to say thankyou for all your kind words to help get me through this!!!!
The Boxer rescue called me today and they know that i don't want to loose her but i have no choice. The people who do this are great and they have come up with a possible solution........ they are in the middle of talking to some of the people who foster all the boxers before rehoming them and they are trying to find her a FOSTER home and look after her (i pay for food and vet bills) until i get back on my feet even if it takes a year.
They have made no promises that this will be possible but they need to wait until xmas is over with (so that she will settle better with her foster parents if they find somewhere that can take her)
Fingers crossed that this will be possible for them to find somewhere for her to be fostered if not they will find her a loving forever home.
Just to say thankyou for all your kind words to help get me through this!!!!
The Boxer rescue called me today and they know that i don't want to loose her but i have no choice. The people who do this are great and they have come up with a possible solution........ they are in the middle of talking to some of the people who foster all the boxers before rehoming them and they are trying to find her a FOSTER home and look after her (i pay for food and vet bills) until i get back on my feet even if it takes a year.
They have made no promises that this will be possible but they need to wait until xmas is over with (so that she will settle better with her foster parents if they find somewhere that can take her)
Fingers crossed that this will be possible for them to find somewhere for her to be fostered if not they will find her a loving forever home.
BentleysMama
Completely Boxer Crazy
Crossing our fingers!!!
I am so happy they are working with you and giving you the possibility of taking care of your baby that long until you can get up on your feet. I have been following this thread just hoping you will find something so that you can keep Maci. You've done such wonderful things for this precious girl it would be a shame to have to give her up, though if you do have to you can know you made a world of difference with her and gave her all the love you could. I'm really hoping this works out for you. We will be thinking of you and Maci and crossing all our fingers and toes
I am so happy they are working with you and giving you the possibility of taking care of your baby that long until you can get up on your feet. I have been following this thread just hoping you will find something so that you can keep Maci. You've done such wonderful things for this precious girl it would be a shame to have to give her up, though if you do have to you can know you made a world of difference with her and gave her all the love you could. I'm really hoping this works out for you. We will be thinking of you and Maci and crossing all our fingers and toes
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