How long will the grieving last??????

[EfexII]

I am still so sad.......I lost my boxer, Thor of almost 14 years on June 18th. I know it is going on three months
but I am still so sad and miss him so much. My husband wants to get another boxer (we have a five year old named
Merle, brindle, natural ears) and I just can't get myself to do it. It isn't that I don't want another boxer but I'll
never have another Thor and it is just too hard to think about. I know for Merle's sake, he needs a new playmate. I can tell he still misses Thor too. Will I ever feel better?????

Debbie in VA, Mom to Merle and Thor, waiting at the bridge.

 

[JeZZe]

I am so sorry for your loss. There is so little words can say or do. I can only offer my heartfelt understanding of the sorrow you feel.

September 1st, was an extremely bad day at our home. as it was one year since we had lost our sweet Jesse. I must admit the grieving has eased with time. We cherish her memories and do find comfort in the years we had with her but somehow the time just wasn't enough. Our new pup, Tallie has helped fill the empty space and is special in her own way.

Special thoughts and sincere sympathy

 

[leenasmom]

I am so sad for your loss. The pain will get easier to deal with, but wont go away completely. I am still sad when I think about my first dog that went to the Bridge 7 years ago. You will be in my prayers.

 

[Wendy Swalls]

I'm sure the grieving process is different for each person, we lost Buddy and had to get another puppy right away. He was our first boxer and made such a difference in our lives that we knew we had to have a boxer in the house always. We lost Buddy very unexpectedly, and it's still hard to talk about him. My husband looked for Buddy in the new puppies we saw, I wanted one that looked completely different so that I wouldn't be tempted to compare.

We'll bring Mickey home on October 1 and he is already helping fill the hole that Buddy's passing left.

Just let the grieving happen and don't try to keep it in and remember that your Thor is playing at the bridge and waiting for you.

 

[Aimee]

The grieving process is different for each person. Some need time to heal and others have the need to run out and get a new pup right away. I am the type that needs the time to heal so I know how you feel. It has been almost 9 months since we lost Garrett and it is just now that I don't get choked up. I am sure Merle could use a playmate but you have to do it when your ready. You may want to get a rescue. The overwhelming feeling you get when you save an unwanted but worthy soul cannot be compared. I am also in Virginia, if you are interested in a rescue, please let me know! Take your time, you'll know when it's right.

 

[oz4lines]

We lost our Eva (11 1/2) female brindle last summer Aug 2000. Theres not a day we don't think about her and her own funny little ways of doing things. Helping her cross the bridge was the hardest thing i've ever done, but it was her time and she let us know. We still have Adolf, our 12 3/4 year old fawn male, who still looks for her and misses her too. She was Adolf's Only dogfriend, as he DOES NOT get along with other dogs. It saddens me to see him slowing down and turning grey, knowing that his time will be coming all too soon. He's very healthy and playful for an old coot, but he's just not capable of all the things he could do when he was younger. Getting a puppy now to fill Eva's void is out of the question for us at this time, I couldn't stress Adolf right now. I almost feal guilty watching the posts w/ litter arrivals as i can't wait to have puppys in the house again. But Adolf comes first and I can wait, hopefully it will be a few more years.

 

[Kim Hendrick]

So Sorry

I was sorry to hear of your loss.

We lost our first dog a german shepherd 3 years ago now. He was only 6 and it was very unexpected. He actually died whilst we were away on holiday so you can imagine the extra feelings of guilt for not being with him on his last few days added to the normal grief we felt aswell. I really never had seen my husband so upset and the pain was unbearable.

Everyone one said that to get a pup straight away would help and within 3 weeks we had our first boxer! I think that it did help at the time but when the inevitable happens again I think that I won't rush the dicision again.

You will know when the time is right. I know that it sounds corny but its so true to say 'that time is great healer'.

Best Wishes to you from across the atlantic.