Boyfriend Totaled Our Car!!! (kinda long)

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Ali_Crazy

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I'm already going to apologize in advance because I just need to vent and I know this is gonna be kinda jumpy and messed up!
My boyfriend took our car out to go with his buddies Saturday night. Well the phone rings at 2am and my woman intuition (sp?) kicked in and I knew that he had wrecked the car before I even saw the caller ID or answered the phone. He was the other end a nervous wreck. I asked him what was wrong and he told me that he had indeed wrecked the car. That a deer ran out in front of him and he swerved to miss it and got caught in a ditch and ended up hitting a tree!! So I put on some warm clothes and drove to where he had the accident. When I pulled up all I was was the driver's side and there really wasn't much damage that I saw, but I saw that the air bags did blow. I thought alright not to bad. When I finally got out and to the passenger side I started crying my eyes out and got sick! The front right wheel was ripped completely off and the quarter panel was crushed! Not to mention half of the bumper was missing. I was so mad at him, but so thankful that he wasn't hurt. Even though I would've liked to hurt him!
So to make a long story short the state police showed up and gave him a breathalizer. He blew a 0.14!! The legal limit here is 0.08!! I was ready to kill him even more after that. So he got arrested for DUI and now I'm stuck with a car that still hasn't been looked at my the insurance company and no car to drive!
After I bailed him out of jail Sunday morning he told me that the last drink he had was at 9:30 that night. So I asked him what had he drank....3 Long Island Ice Teas and a couple beers! He couldn't figure out why in the world he blew that high when he didn't even have a buzz!! I was ready to choke him.
I'm trying to make the best out of the situation and look at it like everything happens for a reason, but it's gonna take me awhile to figure this one out!! We had only had that car for 5 months and I absolutly loved it!! Now my insurance company is thinking about dropping me because when I first got my liscence lets just say I wasn't the best driver in the world! And I'm gonna have to find another car that when I finally find another insurance company that the insurance won't be to high. I could just scream!!
Thanks for letting me vent.
 
Arrrggghhh! Men, he should know better than that. 3 drinks and some beers is too much to have and then drive. He's lucky he never hurt someone on his way home. I am so sorry about your car. Did he say that he will get you a new one? And don't even get me started about insurance companys. Their legalized criminals! You pay them all this money and when the time comes to get a little back, they never want to cough up any! I hope you get a car soon, its hard to be without wheels...
 

MyGirlHeidi

Completely Boxer Crazy
So sorry to hear about the accident. At least your boyfriend is okay and hopefully you both can get everything straightened out and settled quickly. At least you won't have to worry about him wrecking another car for about a year! Just think this is the end of the year and you have a whole new year to start fresh and look ahead. Keep your chin up! :)
 

momstaxi

Completely Boxer Crazy
Oh i'd be so mad.Happy he wasn't hurt but so mad at him. I think he owes you all the $ this will cost you.so sorry it happened.
 

Baileysmom

Boxer Insane
Oh he would die!! Death by my own two hands. I yell at my husband all the time for thinking that he is invincible and thinking that he will be fine. Yea he is always fine. But what about that one time where there is someone on the other side of the road!! Arrggg. Gets me fired up everytime!
I tell him time and time again that he should call me to come and get him! I would be less angry for the call than if he would hurt himself or someone else!
 

kelseighgirl

Completely Boxer Crazy
What a Jerk!!!!! I would make him pay every cent that its gonna cost to fix that car since now your insurance is either gonna go up or they are gonna cancel you. Was he a "covered" driver on your vehicle???

Isnt this the boyfriend you were gonna get rid of for cheating on you a while back??
 

Scrapper's Mom

Boxer Insane
I can't think of anything worse than driving under the influence. Not only are you risking your own life (and your family's well-being whether they are in or out of the car with you) but some poor innocent person(s) could die just because of your stupidity. That is pretty unforgiveable in my eyes. Make him admit he has a problem and stop drinking. Life CAN be lived without booze. Especially when there's driving involved. Sorry that you now have to pay the price for his immature and bad judgment. Maybe he will see the light when he's standing before the judge. Honestly, you just have to take a stand on principle when it's something important like this.
 

Ali_Crazy

Super Boxer
kelseighgirl said:
Isnt this the boyfriend you were gonna get rid of for cheating on you a while back??

It sure is! Should've got rid of him back then!

He's going to help me out with the cost of things as much as he can and what ever my insurance jumps to he gonna pay the difference of the two. I was already paying 212 a month on a 99...I'm scared to hear what the insurance company is gonna do. The way my insurance is set up though is if the car is covered whoever drives it is covered.

Thanks for everyone's support!!
 

kelseighgirl

Completely Boxer Crazy
If my memory serves me right again...wasnt he supposed to be attending detox classes for his drinking problem?? Maybe the court will order him to attend the classes now!!!!
 

Oscar's Mom

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OMG, $212 a month??!!! :eek:
I can't imagine.

I'm going to tell you a story that I'm not very proud of. When I was a senior in high school I totaled a car I'd had for 5 months on my way home from my boyfriend's house. I rolled the car, all the windows were broken out (one b/c my head hit it) and one wheel came off. I was knocked out and remember only bits and pieces from the rest of the night. They told me I refused medical attention and blew a .15 on a breathalizer. So here I was 18 with a totaled car and a DWI. My parents were great helping me through it even though it was a big screw up on my part.
Moral of my story, I learned a big lesson. I still drink but never when I drive.

I hope your boyfriend learned his lesson and I'm glad he's helping you pay for it. It's the least he can do.
Best of luck to you.

Myra
 
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