When Does it Stop???

[ZoeRestorick]

I have been thinking of you since the day you lost your darling. The pictures you posted were so beautiful and what you wrote was so touching too. I dont think you will ever stop missing her sweet spirit but in time the pain will ease. She was such a huge part of your life for 12 years and she has only been gone 6 weeks. Give yourself time to grieve. Dont rush the process. I wish all of us here could take your pain away. x

Thank you soo much! It means the world that someone understands what I am going through!!!

 

[DiverDiva]

I don't think the pain totally goes away. We learn, a little more each day, to be less sensitive to the hurt. It was 25 years from the time my beloved Kippy went to the bridge until I got Oscar. I do not recommend waiting that long, and it was in large part due to life circumstances. Shortly after bringing Oscar home, I burst into tears and was trying to tell Kippy I did not love her any less.

Beautiful Isis will always be with you. The fact that you miss her so much means there was a huge amount of love between the two of you. That is a wonderful thing.

 

[samsons]

I wish I knew !

We just lost our beloved friend huck ( chow ) 12-12-09. i had to make the agonizing choice of putting him down ( days before my bday) he was diagnoised(sp) with cancer ( terminal) and was in so much pain - i made the best choice for him. (even though vet said the could drug him n we could take him home :( )

i still cry everyday- sometimes with joy - sometimes out of nowhere , the tears come , sweeping the wood floors and still having "tumble weeds " of chow hair. I had a allergy attack the other day - grabbed " his " bynadrill (sp) made me cry< but tonight scrap booking pics with my daughter (19) we found so soo soo many of him , enjoying life and being such a part of our family , i couldnt help but smile with joy of the 10 years we had spent with each other enriching the others life ! yes it hurts , and i dont think i will ever stop missing him -( i am crying as i write this ) but i will never forget the simple joy he has brought to our lives - and i even miss all the hair all over everything !

no one greives the same - and i have made myself focuse more on the fur baby i still have with me - take more pics and enjoy every minet- with him , and MY DAUGHTERS.

HUCK was the first time i have every lost anyone i have loved in such a perminet way - i know how much U and ur family are hurting right now ! Just remmeber he is waiting for U - loves U - and is sending mushy kiss's ur way !!

God Bless~
Anderson Family

 

[uncouth]

The tears, I mean??? How long before you stopped crying every day for your lost fur baby? It has been a month and a half, and I am still crying for Isis, every single day. The pain is almost unbearable.... I want to move on, but what did you do? I have her ashes, and cards from those who loved her, and I let a balloon go on the day she died, to help me let her spirit go.... Any other ideas? I feel like she is still here with me.

I am on day 1 of my grief period, having lost my dog just last night, and find it incredibly difficult to simply function. Like you, I wonder how long the mourning period lasts, but suspect it never really ends. There will be times when the silliest thing reminds you of your dog and you'll cry as if she just passed. I think what changes is that while you're still within the grieving period, the memories tend to overwhelm you. In time, they'll make you smile. That's the thread I'm hanging onto for hope, anyway.

 

[ZoeRestorick]

I am on day 1 of my grief period, having lost my dog just last night, and find it incredibly difficult to simply function. Like you, I wonder how long the mourning period lasts, but suspect it never really ends. There will be times when the silliest thing reminds you of your dog and you'll cry as if she just passed. I think what changes is that while you're still within the grieving period, the memories tend to overwhelm you. In time, they'll make you smile. That's the thread I'm hanging onto for hope, anyway.

Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss..... My heart aches for you! No one knows how much it hurts to lose a Boxer than another Boxer lover... I guess it will never truly end, that I will live the rest of my life missing Isis and all that she was....But we can only move on, love another Boxer or another person enough to fill the void. I hope you have one or the other!

Zoe xo

 

[Murp.mm]

Thinking of you and hoping each day gets a little easier. Hugs.

 

[uncouth]

Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss..... My heart aches for you! No one knows how much it hurts to lose a Boxer than another Boxer lover... I guess it will never truly end, that I will live the rest of my life missing Isis and all that she was....But we can only move on, love another Boxer or another person enough to fill the void. I hope you have one or the other!

Zoe xo

Thanks so much for your kind words. I'm blessed to live with my girlfriend and her teenage son, the three of us leaning on each other for support. We've also decided, as a family, to welcome a new Boxer into our home this summer.

The void will always be there, but here's hoping the gap gets smaller in time.

 

[dimond]

Well... 2 years later I can say it never gets any better. It hurts as much today as it did then. I think you just learn to live with the pain.
Max was my first and my last boxer, he could never be replaced.
The thing I've noticed is there is a great respect amongst boxer owners, almost like we share something that no-one else does. I still will cross the road to make a fuss of a boxer whenever I see one.

 

[ZoeRestorick]

Murp.mm thank you so much for your kind thoughts. Everyday it gets a little better; I don't cry for her each day, but the memories make me smile! Isis was such an important part of my life, but I was also her life and I loved that role. I don't feel "haunted" by her presence, never did, just like she was somehow still there with me, but I realize it was just the sharp emotions I felt for her. As time softens the edges, I am learning to live with this loss.

I was getting ready for work this morning while my husband was in the kitchen preparing his breakfast, scooping yogurt into a bowl. I could have sworn I heard Isis lapping up her food with pleasure! It was a sweet and tender memory and I just smiled and shared that thought with hubby. Then we both laughed at how Isis would make such a mess when she ate, and how she enjoyed her food. We are ready to start looking for a new Boxer to add to our family this Spring. No one could ever replace my Beauty, but we need the love of a Boxer to make our house a home again. I registered with Boxer Rescue Ontario to help me in my search.

 

[Murp.mm]

I'm glad to hear that things are getting a bit easier for you. My niece commented to me about how Ms. Ali was almost human and like your Isis she is the light of my life. Over the past few months she's had some issues with 2 knee surgeries, now a UTI and some stomach issues and I get so scared knowing that at any time I could face the pain that you and so many more have faced and still face.

I'm glad to hear that you plan on getting another boxer. I can't imagine life without one. The adoption route is a great way to give a boxer a loving home. I go to the Ontario rescue site from time to time and think that is what I would like to do but hopefully not for a long time yet.

My feeling on our beloved pets being around us is why not. When you love someone that much there spirit has to be near us. Maybe I'm crazy but I think Isis is close by you and will be there whenever you need her. She's helping you deal with her loss. Now I'm in tears. I think when you're able you will look back and think how blessed you were to have your sweet girl for so long but it's never long enough is it. We are their world and they are ours.

Your devoted girl will never be far from you and I bet she'll help you in choosing another boxer to warm your heart. She knows she'll always be your precious angel.

Hugs