When Does it Stop???

[DyckDogs]

I cried most every day after losing our 3 yr old Quincy.
It took one year for me.
Not that I don't shed tears for him any longer, but not every day like I did.
I still have that pain when I think of the day he died. And I miss him terribly.
I don't think that will ever go away.
I just know the every day pain you feel right now will ease. How long that takes is different for everyone.
Just know that there are a lot of us who have felt what you are feeling.
Hugs to you.

 

[auntthelm]

The pain of the loss of a loved one is unbearable at times. Even now 2 years since I lost my Crystal, the pain will unexpectedly leave me feeling so sad.
About 2 months after I lost my girl, a friend told me she thought it would help to read the book "Rescuing Sprite by Mark Levin." I cried so hard while reading it that it actually helped lift some of the pain. It is a short book, and very quick read.

I hope you are able to find a way to ease your pain. (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

 

[boilerupking]

My heart goes out to you, your grief is painfully evident, and I know how overwhelming the sadness can be. Your pictures and posts about Isis are so touching, she was clearly well-loved by your family, as were you by her.
Shortly after I lost my beloved, I wrote him a letter. I wanted to thank him for all the joy and pure love he brought into my life and to remember every detail of our time together. He was my constant companion, and there were so many things that just he and I shared, little moments and big ones which made him so special and irreplaceable.
Writing the letter,even though it took days to finish thru all the breakdowns and tears, was cathartic. I had intended to place it into his urn with him, but instead keep it accessible. I've found that even now, years later, I still read it when he is on my mind. It helps to remind me how lucky I am to have known and loved him and brings back only good memories of our life together.
You feel her around you because she is, and always will be. Such a faithful companion can never be completely gone from your lives. Take your time, it is a process with no schedule. Isis was very lucky to have lived a life filled with so much love. Wishing you peace and comfort.

 

[Indy's mom]

It is heart breaking to lose someone we love so much. It offers some comfort to me that it's because of the deep love and strong bond I've had with the animals in my life that thinking of them can still make me cry. In some cases, particularly regardin gmy horse barney, it's been well over 30 years.

However, much more often thoughts of these wonderful animals brings me pleasure, helps me to remember the time that we had together and the special bond we shared. Each animal has brought me more happiness than I had any right to expect, certainly much more than I deserved. They've taught me lessons of love, compassion and simple joy. They still teach me when I remember them today.

I wish I could tell you when it will stop being so painful, alas there is no way of knowing. But I do believe that the pain will slowly and gently subside as the joyful memories and the spirit of your sweet baby comfort you.

Sending you healing energy and hugs,
Sandy

 

[ZoeRestorick]

I wish I could tell you when it will stop. As the previous post said, everyone copes differently.

I said goodbye to our girl on 30 October and I am starting to have more good days than bad. I have her ashes in a wooden box in our family room with a picture of the two of us. I go and touch it everyday and say hello to her. For me, having her in our main living area makes me feel she is still here with us and I truly believe she is.

the most important thing is to allow yourself the time to grieve and dont beat yourself up because you think you should be doing better. It takes time and you obviously loved your baby so so deeply. I actually ended up going to the doctor and getting some medication to help me cope with things, so if that what it takes maybe its something to consider.

I wish I could give you a hug right now but I am sending you lots of love.

Oh
Leanne, I wish I could give you a real hug now, sweetie!

 

[ZoeRestorick]

It is heart breaking to lose someone we love so much. It offers some comfort to me that it's because of the deep love and strong bond I've had with the animals in my life that thinking of them can still make me cry. In some cases, particularly regardin gmy horse barney, it's been well over 30 years.

However, much more often thoughts of these wonderful animals brings me pleasure, helps me to remember the time that we had together and the special bond we shared. Each animal has brought me more happiness than I had any right to expect, certainly much more than I deserved. They've taught me lessons of love, compassion and simple joy. They still teach me when I remember them today.

I wish I could tell you when it will stop being so painful, alas there is no way of knowing. But I do believe that the pain will slowly and gently subside as the joyful memories and the spirit of your sweet baby comfort you.

Sending you healing energy and hugs,
Sandy

Thank you Sandy, your words mean so much to me right now!

 

[ZoeRestorick]

My heart goes out to you, your grief is painfully evident, and I know how overwhelming the sadness can be. Your pictures and posts about Isis are so touching, she was clearly well-loved by your family, as were you by her.
Shortly after I lost my beloved, I wrote him a letter. I wanted to thank him for all the joy and pure love he brought into my life and to remember every detail of our time together. He was my constant companion, and there were so many things that just he and I shared, little moments and big ones which made him so special and irreplaceable.
Writing the letter,even though it took days to finish thru all the breakdowns and tears, was cathartic. I had intended to place it into his urn with him, but instead keep it accessible. I've found that even now, years later, I still read it when he is on my mind. It helps to remind me how lucky I am to have known and loved him and brings back only good memories of our life together.
You feel her around you because she is, and always will be. Such a faithful companion can never be completely gone from your lives. Take your time, it is a process with no schedule. Isis was very lucky to have lived a life filled with so much love. Wishing you peace and comfort.

Thank you - you are so right!

 

[ZoeRestorick]

The pain of the loss of a loved one is unbearable at times. Even now 2 years since I lost my Crystal, the pain will unexpectedly leave me feeling so sad.
About 2 months after I lost my girl, a friend told me she thought it would help to read the book "Rescuing Sprite by Mark Levin." I cried so hard while reading it that it actually helped lift some of the pain. It is a short book, and very quick read.

I hope you are able to find a way to ease your pain. (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

I have been reading " A Big Little Life" by Dean Koontz, author extraordinaire and dog lover! It has been an amazing comfort to me!!!

 

[ZoeRestorick]

I cried most every day after losing our 3 yr old Quincy.
It took one year for me.
Not that I don't shed tears for him any longer, but not every day like I did.
I still have that pain when I think of the day he died. And I miss him terribly.
I don't think that will ever go away.
I just know the every day pain you feel right now will ease. How long that takes is different for everyone.
Just know that there are a lot of us who have felt what you are feeling.
Hugs to you.

Thank you! I guess the 'pain' will never subside entirely, will it? I will cry for Isis as long as I am here... That's OK, she deserves to be loved and remembered.
I am doing all I can to honour my beautiful girl,, respect her life here on Earth, treasure each moment we had, and look forward to our future together, into Eternity. Thank you all for your sweet thoughts, advice and prayers. I thought I saw her shape last night on my bed - I put my hand out to stroke her fur, her velvet ears, but she was not really there. What so you think, am I imagining her in my mind's eye? It was like she was there?

 

[ZoeRestorick]

I have been thinking of you since the day you lost your darling. The pictures you posted were so beautiful and what you wrote was so touching too. I dont think you will ever stop missing her sweet spirit but in time the pain will ease. She was such a huge part of your life for 12 years and she has only been gone 6 weeks. Give yourself time to grieve. Dont rush the process. I wish all of us here could take your pain away. x

Thank you so much - you are so sweet! It will take a long time before I get over my Isis!