When Does it Stop???

[ZoeRestorick]

The tears, I mean??? How long before you stopped crying every day for your lost fur baby? It has been a month and a half, and I am still crying for Isis, every single day. The pain is almost unbearable.... I want to move on, but what did you do? I have her ashes, and cards from those who loved her, and I let a balloon go on the day she died, to help me let her spirit go.... Any other ideas? I feel like she is still here with me.

 

[StacyT]

I would love to tell you it will stop soon but it is different for everyone.I lost our Bam Bam 2years ago and just writing this my eyes are tearing up thinking about him.I cried for months and still do at times and there are other times when I can think about him and smile in just the memories I was lucky enough to have shared with him.
There are some people out there that lose a dog shed a few tears and move on.Then there are others out there that really have a bond with there pet and it is like loseing a best friend.. it is loseing a best friend.You will just have to give yourself time.I made a photo album of Bam Bam and it may seem crazy but am thinking about getting a tattoo of his name with some angel wings.Everyone one has different ways of copeing until you see them again and I truly belive you will.Until then you have the memories of a bond that most people do not ever get to experience. Take Care (((((hug)))))
Stacy

 

[SweetCody]

I am so sorry for your pain. It hurts so bad to lose someone you love so much. I have to agree with the PP that it is different for everyone. I lost my beloved Snoopy well over 10 years ago. I don't remember how long I cried everyday for him......it was a long time ago and I have a very bad memory. But I still think of him everyday. Most days it brings a smile to my face.......he was such a great dog. Other days it brings tears......I miss him so much. He was my confidant......a dog that patiently listened to all the hopes and fears, dreams and tears of a little girl......he was that for all three of us kids......he was a much beloved pet and lived a wonderful little doggy life.
There is no time limit on grief......some parts of it never go away....but the constant pain does leave, it will leave when you are ready to let it go, but it is a process that we all must face on our own terms and time limits. Hugs to you today.

 

[Boxer Babies]

I wish I could tell you when it will stop. As the previous post said, everyone copes differently.

I said goodbye to our girl on 30 October and I am starting to have more good days than bad. I have her ashes in a wooden box in our family room with a picture of the two of us. I go and touch it everyday and say hello to her. For me, having her in our main living area makes me feel she is still here with us and I truly believe she is.

the most important thing is to allow yourself the time to grieve and dont beat yourself up because you think you should be doing better. It takes time and you obviously loved your baby so so deeply. I actually ended up going to the doctor and getting some medication to help me cope with things, so if that what it takes maybe its something to consider.

I wish I could give you a hug right now but I am sending you lots of love.

 

[ELubas]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is a long road and different for all of us. My Fraze has been gone a year now and I think of him everyday, and still cry somedays. My little Ailis is gone almost four years and I still miss her sweet face. It is a tribute to them that we miss them so. I hope in time your pain eases and you can smile to think of your girl. She is safe at the bridge, you know, waiting for you to come some day. Try to remember the love and good life you gave Isis-it is all a good dog wants and deserves and she would want you to be happy. I try to remember how sad it always made Fraze and Ai if I was sad. So we need to be a little happy so they can be beaning up at the bridge waiting for us. My thoughts are with you

 

[RoxiesEcho]

Time has a way of making things easier but I don't think the sadness ever really goes away. When my Roxie went to the bridge I dug out all of the pictures I had of her and made a special scrapbook. I started with puppy pictures and made special pages for holidays and all of the experiences she loved. It was very carthartic for me and whenever I find myself thinking of her I pull it out to smile and shed a few tears.

 

[GoCougs]

It's been two months today that we lost AJ. My wife still cries every day. So many things remind us of him every day, and not a day goes by that we don't miss him or feel like something is missing. And we have two other boxers in the house. They're such a big part of your life.

The pain diminishes over time. But they never leave your heart, and they can never be replaced. You just have to try and not get caught up too much in the loss, and remember them and be thankful for all of the happiness they brought you....and you them.

 

[Murp.mm]

Ahhh my heart breaks for you. I know how much Isis meant to you. After loving her for 14 years it is impossible not to be sad and still cry. Only those who have truly loved and lost can know that. Our first family dog lived for 15 years and it took me a very long time not to think of him and get emotional. You are not alone in your feelings and the time will come as dark as it may seem right now that you will be able to think of your princess without crying. But there will always be times when her memories will make you emotional and that's OK. It really bothers me that society puts a time limit on when we should get over our losses. We have to heal and everyone heals differently. This time of year makes it especially hard for those who have lost over the past year. Hope each day gets a little easier and I believe your princess is around you. She loved you and you loved her. Love never dies. Hugs to you.

 

[Walkssoftly]

My heart goes out to you.. I don't think it ever ever goes away.... Losing my precious TaTanka almost 8mo's ago at 3yrs old, a healthy strong boy, due to horrifying vet negligence, still haunts me, and brings me to tears many times unexpectedly. What you say about feeling like she is still with you... She is.. and always will be.. I personally feel TaTanka near at times.. and while it is painful, it is also comforting, because I know his spirit is free, yet his spirit is always with me too..
You are in my prayers.. and Isis is free.... no pain, and just sunny days... She will be there to meet you...
Blessings

Karen
Sequoia white female 3yrs
Rooster fawn/flashy male
My very missed boys.. TaTanka, Tuff E. Nuff and Sly

 

[iluvfrankie]

I have been thinking of you since the day you lost your darling. The pictures you posted were so beautiful and what you wrote was so touching too. I dont think you will ever stop missing her sweet spirit but in time the pain will ease. She was such a huge part of your life for 12 years and she has only been gone 6 weeks. Give yourself time to grieve. Dont rush the process. I wish all of us here could take your pain away. x