My Rescue Boxer hates my son

[ladyluck_t]

Yes, Cat..... it breaks my heart to think of NOT providing him tons of love and comfort after the horrendous life he's had. I think it's pretty understandable that he feels the need to be so protective of me and his "home" that he finally has..... He probably feels for the very first time that he HAS a home. I know that dogs need to be trained and learn their place in the household, but he's just a bundle of fear and trying to please.... he literally cringes 60% of his day, wondering if he's about to get hit for something he just did which can be as simple as walking by you. He's terrified of so many little things that you drive yourself crazy wondering what this poor boy has been through. He is TERRIFIED of flashlights, and TERRIFIED of crinkling paper of any sort (even the cellophane wrapping around cheese). Maybe something about my son reminds the dog of someone who beat him, so I guess the best thing to do is get my son to do more things with him. Thanks for your compassion.
Sue

Ok to add to the excellent advice given, I would recommend a strict NILF method with this guy. This is a very easy and non-confrontational way to keep "pack" harmony in the home. Also, when I apply the NILF method, when the dog refuses to comply (i.e. doesnt sit to go out or get dinner) then I just say "Too bad".....I challenge you to say "too bad" in a mean way! It is next to impossible. This way he learns how to behave and the stress on him and you is reduced. There isnt a reason to correct or "punish" him at that point, just a simple "too bad" meaning "whoops, you made the wrong choice, perhaps you should try again" It keeps things upbeat, and helps them build confidence. The more often he gets to practice good behavior and gets rewarded for it, the more confident he will become.

I would also recommend that periodically you give him a reward (treat, praise, pats, hugs whatever) for being good. I usually do this when mine settle down and chew on their toys quietly. I just say "Drake, good boy" very quiet and not exciteable, just quiet praise. Or I will stop and pet them as I move to another room (think potty break ) This is just a simple way to show them that what they are doing is good and you (the leader) are pleased with their behavior. This builds confidence too.

Also, I would recommend checking into some of Patricia McConnells booklets, the two I would recommend for you are "Cautious Canine" and "Fiesty Fido"
She has some very clear cut ways to help dogs around these issues using a simple and positive counter-conditioning method.

Again, I also strongly encourage you contacting a qualified behavioral consultant. Most will work around your schedule, perhaps your son could take a night off and help out in this situation.

Anyhow, good luck and congrats on your new addition!