My heart is breaking

[ladyluck_t]

Wow Carolyn thank you for your kind words. I do believe I am at fault here on so many levels. This is the last thing I want to do. I am so torn. I am battling a husband who says he is a "liability" and with my heart who says he's "my baby". No one here has said anything I haven't thought it just seems harsh when you're reading it knowing that this isn't what you want to do. I appreciate your opinion as well as everyone else who has posted even if it's not what I want to hear.

Well in reality, there is no point in going "you should have done this or that"
It is way past that time. I know what it is to lose trust in a dog, My second foster we euthanized was like that. My first foster was aggressive with everyone but me, I never worried or lost trust in him But he was dangerous. But the second one was a real sweetheart right up until he attacked and hurt my 4mo's old puppy. He wouldnt let up or let go. At that point I lost complete trust in him and from then on was worried about everything I did, afraid I would "push" that button. It was very stressful time and I dont think there was anything that could have been done to convince me he was safe. There was no way he would gain my trust back. So in that respect, I do understand. Once it gets to that point, there really isnt too many options left. My trainer/behaviorist and I were talking about this last weekend. She aggreed, she said most of the time when she gets called in the people have lost the trust and she said that this is when she knows there is very little hope left.

In my opinion though, you need to make sure what the rescue is going to do with him. If they plan on euthanizing him for aggression, it would be better for him if you took that responsibility. It is infinitly the most difficult thing in the world to do, but he deserves to have you there. But again, this is just my opinion, do what you feel is best for you and your family. Good Luck and I will keep you in my prayers

 

[l8krgirl08]

Euthanizing him would tear my heart out but if it came to that I would definitely take responsibility for it. I am in the process of looking for a behaviorist but my husband has said he does not want him here anymore. I do understand his point of view but I feel I don't want to give up. I am at such a loss as to what to do. I have learned so much from this site that I did not know when I got Bugzy. I had boxers growing up and loved their sweet personality making them the perfect choice for me once I was an adult. Again, I appreciate your point of view and I applaud your work with the rescue.

 

[marciafinn]

Euthanizing him would tear my heart out but if it came to that I would definitely take responsibility for it. I am in the process of looking for a behaviorist but my husband has said he does not want him here anymore.

I would at least talk to a few behaviorists and have them evaluate the situation. I know your husband isn't comfortable but before getting rid of him I would try it as a last resort. Depending on what they say and how much time you/your family is willing to put into this, Bugzy may be able to change. Again, I am not a behaviorist it is just what I would do to exhaust every last option before turning him over to rescue. This information may be able to help a rescue also decide what they are up against if they are willing to take him in. If the rescues in your area think they will have to euthanize, I am glad that you will take that responsibility.

I know that this is very hard for you. I hope that your family will be able to do what is right by Bugzy.

 

[Brynn1508]

Iam a bit confused... a couple quick questions:
how old is your boy?
has he attacked anyone? You mentioned lunging after people and jumping up and scratching your husband’s friend etc, but I was wondering if he has really caused harm?
I seem to be causing turmoil today with my posts and I am not trying to do that here. I would recommend finding a great trainer/behaviorist. My trainer has a 99% success rate with breaking aggression in dogs. She has only had to put one dog. and the other dogs have been around kids, some rescues and gone to families with other animals/kids... etc. Please try at least a consultation. (and I have a gut feeling you still trust your boy - I could be wrong, but I know you have not given up all hope yet ) Good Luck! Please keep us posted