Miscarriage

[elbykitty]

I am so sorry Theresa. Many years ago I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks. The pregancy came at a very bad time and I was pretty stressed. By the 16th week I was finally accepting that I was going to have a baby and actually excited. When I miscarried I felt so guilty because I didn't want a baby in the beginning and felt that it was the price I was going to pay for not wanting it to begin with. The worst part was everyone was saying that it was not meant to be and everything happens for a reason. With the hormones and my grief it took everything in me not to tell these well meaning folks to just shut up, that it doesn't make me feel better that it happened for a reason. That I needed to grieve and though I never got to meet him that I already loved him and had to grieve all the dreams I had for him. Again I am so sorry.
Elbykitty
Mom of Lilly and Oscar

 

[Luvnmyboxer]

All I can say is how sorry I am to hear this news. I know how happy you were and you wanted this baby so bad. But like we always say, things work out for a reason, and it wasn't the right time. I hope you will have a good pregnancy the next time and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers during this time.

 

[Rocky's Ma]

I am so sorry about what happened. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Austin's Mom]

Having had a M/C myself I know how it feels. But I tried to hold on to the fact that everything happens for a reason. I went on to have two healthy children. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. ((hugs))

 

[Macon's Mom]

Thank you all so much. It's very comforting to know that I have your support. Especially to hear from people that have been through this before and understand that it doesn't matter if I was only 8 weeks pregnant, the loss and pain is still real.

As today is Palm Sunday, DH and I went to church. It was difficult. Everywhere I looked there were babies and pregnant women and of course lots of children. I couldn't help but cry. My DH is so understanding and is so sad too.

I know time and faith will heal my hurt; it has before when a boyfriend committed suicide when I was in college (2 weeks after I ended our relationship). My aunt will be a great support for me. She lost 1 baby stillborn at 6 months, another born at 6 months and lived for 2 months before she passed, had a miscarriage and then finally had Evan. He will be 4 in June. His dad (my father's brother) died of a massive heart attack when Evan was only 2. It was so sad.

If Aunt Ginny can go through all that, I can handle this miscarriage. She's getting remarried next weekend and our family is so happy for her but it's bittersweet, as we sort of feel we're losing Uncle Bob again, now that she is officially moving on. I know she'll stay close with our family though.

Thanks again for all of your support. I love my BW friends

 

[Linda/NJ]

Theresa, I am sorry. Sending you & DH lots of (((((HUGS)))))

 

[sanford7]

I am so sorry!! You definately have my prayers!! I have had 3.. and it is never easy. One was at 8 weeks another at 5 months and the last was almost 6 months. Sending my thoughts and prayers to surround you!!

 

[Kosmo's Mom]

I am so sorry. Please know you are in my thoughts & prayers. God Bless!

 

[spacevwbug79]

prayers and thoughts

I am so sorry you are having to go through this!! I have not had one of my own but I dream of having kids just like you do. Please know that there are thousands of friends here on this website - thinking and praying for you. Even though we are not there for you to cry on our shoulder just remember that we are there in spirits for you. Again -- So sorry that you are having to go through this. Best wishes for the future.

 

[boxers4life2001]

Theresa,

I am so very sorry you are going through this. I too suffered from a misscarriage and understand what you are going through. Don't feel bad for crying, cry all you want, you have every right to be upset, sad, angry, dissapointed, etc. Regardless of how far along you were, the fact remains you were pregnant and now you are dealing with a loss of your baby. My due date (if I didn't m/c) would have been 4/02, I still think a lot about the baby I lost esp. this time of year.

Just to give you a heads up, people will probbaly say some ingnorant things, they "THINK" they are just trying to be nice and helpful but some of the things might be inconsiderate, just be prepared for insenssitive comments. And like you mentioned, you will really notice all the pregnant moms and babies now. I had to try to put up a wall to be able to deal with it.

Take all the time you need to grieve for your loss, your loss is real and so are your emotions.

Big (((((hugs)))) for you. We are hear if you need to talk/vent.