I'm insulted, what do you think?
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Renee&Jake
Super Boxer
My feelings would be hurt in this situation as well, but your friend may suffer a true fear of dogs.
What is most sad, is that she will raise her children to behave this way as well.
All I can say, is that as long as you have raised Kahlua the way you want her to behave around people, children especially, then you should be proud. I would take the high road here. I just love what Jean wrote about her visitor's policy.
What is most sad, is that she will raise her children to behave this way as well.
All I can say, is that as long as you have raised Kahlua the way you want her to behave around people, children especially, then you should be proud. I would take the high road here. I just love what Jean wrote about her visitor's policy.
kahlua
Boxer Booster
You are all right!
Yesterday I took Kahlua to the park and we walked through the playground where there were so many kids playing. Kahlua trotted so happily through and I looked up so see this lady look at her and then give me a look like she is too scary and mean to be in the playground. She kept looking back at us and I was disgusted! I know people are afraid of their children getting mauled by a vicious, and I am sure that will be a big fear of mine when I have children, but children have more of a chance of getting hit by a car while crossing the road. So what are you going to do? Never let your children out of the house. Also, Kahlua wears haltie which I am sure if often mistaken for a muzzle. But even dogs who wear muzzles aren't always vicious. My last dog hated other animals and would kill them all if she could so she wore a muzzle just in the chance that she got loose and attacked another dog but she would never hurt a child. I think best thing you can do is tell your children to stay away from strange dogs without an adult present but otherwise ask the dog owner if the dog is friendly and if so, ask the dog owner if the child can pet the dog. No normal dog owner will allow a vicious or aggressive dog to be near a child. They don't want the child getting attacked just as much the parent does. I guess there are those cases where "you just never know" but you can't hide your child from the world...
Yesterday I took Kahlua to the park and we walked through the playground where there were so many kids playing. Kahlua trotted so happily through and I looked up so see this lady look at her and then give me a look like she is too scary and mean to be in the playground. She kept looking back at us and I was disgusted! I know people are afraid of their children getting mauled by a vicious, and I am sure that will be a big fear of mine when I have children, but children have more of a chance of getting hit by a car while crossing the road. So what are you going to do? Never let your children out of the house. Also, Kahlua wears haltie which I am sure if often mistaken for a muzzle. But even dogs who wear muzzles aren't always vicious. My last dog hated other animals and would kill them all if she could so she wore a muzzle just in the chance that she got loose and attacked another dog but she would never hurt a child. I think best thing you can do is tell your children to stay away from strange dogs without an adult present but otherwise ask the dog owner if the dog is friendly and if so, ask the dog owner if the child can pet the dog. No normal dog owner will allow a vicious or aggressive dog to be near a child. They don't want the child getting attacked just as much the parent does. I guess there are those cases where "you just never know" but you can't hide your child from the world...
boxerpeople
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My sister lives out of town, but sometimes has to come up to my town for errands or for appointments etc. Sometimes if we're not home, she'll go to our house to feed the kids lunch, or let the kids take their nap etc. My wife and I have no problems with that, and we enjoy the nice little pictures and things that the kids leave for us.
When she first started doing this though, I came home for luch to let Minnie out. My sister was in the kitchen fixing the kids lunch, the kids were running around the house, and Minnie was STILL IN HER CRATE!! :mad: It was obvious that my sisterhad been there for a while, because the kids had toys spread out and she was in the middle of making lunch.
Needless to say I wasn't happy at all. I let my sister know then, that if she pulled any crap like that again she would no longer be permitted to drop by the house when we're not there. To her credit it has never happened again, and my neiece and nephew LOVE to come and play with Minnie. Now if I could get my sister to stop being such a priss around the dog everything would be great. :rolleyes:
When she first started doing this though, I came home for luch to let Minnie out. My sister was in the kitchen fixing the kids lunch, the kids were running around the house, and Minnie was STILL IN HER CRATE!! :mad: It was obvious that my sisterhad been there for a while, because the kids had toys spread out and she was in the middle of making lunch.
Needless to say I wasn't happy at all. I let my sister know then, that if she pulled any crap like that again she would no longer be permitted to drop by the house when we're not there. To her credit it has never happened again, and my neiece and nephew LOVE to come and play with Minnie. Now if I could get my sister to stop being such a priss around the dog everything would be great. :rolleyes:
Gypsys Mum
Boxer Pal
I am AMAZED at what happened to you!
We have two children, a boy 10 and a girl 9.
Our son was bitten badly by a dog on a visit to a friends' home a few years ago. Now I KNOW this sounds like I'm sticking up for my son. BUT I was there, the dog WAS a maniac. The owners had NO control AT ALL.
Our son has been TERRIFIED of any dog over 12 inches high!
I was brought up with pets, large dogs too. I believe that children get SO MUCH out of the experiance.
We wanted a medium to large size dog and where so angry that this unresponsible idiot had caused the development of this phobia in our son.
SO YOU KNOW WHAT WE DID?
We researched for over 6 months!! We talked to owners, breeders, read books etc.
And what did we decide on?
A BOXER!!
Now if you saw this kid with this dog your heart would melt!
He is also ALOT calmer around larger dogs now as well. His confidence now as opposed to his terror a few months is so wonderful.
I have had a couple of people say 'negative' things about Boxers and the first thing I say is, "You oviously know NOTHING about the breed or have had a negative experiance with an unresponsible owner."
I had one person (a 'friend') say, "I can't believe you got a vicious breed like that when your son is so scared of dogs!"
AHHHHHHHHH
There are no bad dogs, just bad owners! (imo)
Cherie
We have two children, a boy 10 and a girl 9.
Our son was bitten badly by a dog on a visit to a friends' home a few years ago. Now I KNOW this sounds like I'm sticking up for my son. BUT I was there, the dog WAS a maniac. The owners had NO control AT ALL.
Our son has been TERRIFIED of any dog over 12 inches high!
I was brought up with pets, large dogs too. I believe that children get SO MUCH out of the experiance.
We wanted a medium to large size dog and where so angry that this unresponsible idiot had caused the development of this phobia in our son.
SO YOU KNOW WHAT WE DID?
We researched for over 6 months!! We talked to owners, breeders, read books etc.
And what did we decide on?
A BOXER!!
Now if you saw this kid with this dog your heart would melt!
He is also ALOT calmer around larger dogs now as well. His confidence now as opposed to his terror a few months is so wonderful.
I have had a couple of people say 'negative' things about Boxers and the first thing I say is, "You oviously know NOTHING about the breed or have had a negative experiance with an unresponsible owner."
I had one person (a 'friend') say, "I can't believe you got a vicious breed like that when your son is so scared of dogs!"
AHHHHHHHHH
There are no bad dogs, just bad owners! (imo)
Cherie
Dixie Belle
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What you or anyone else has experienced like this is so sad. Most of our experiences have been good. Most people ask if our boxer bites or is she mean before petting her. We did recently though go to an open air flea market and took her with us. It was mostly the non speaking english (spanish speaking) people who were terrified and hugged their kids close to them. But she Never barked or growled at anything or anyone. In fact she was extremely excited because of all the children around. From what my dh says though most of the people who act that way around dogs either have never owned a dog or have been bitten. It bothers me to see people act that way.
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chris N.
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I would have been mad too:mad: . This is how I handle things like this. This is the dogs house if you don't like them you don't need to be in Their home.
I have had many different breeds of dogs in the past and I fell that the boxer is the best all around dog. I for some reason my dogs don't like you u don't need to be around my house. I guess I am lucky all my neighbors like my dogs and like the kids playing over here because NO ONE would ever Hurt any kid in my yard Tyson would do anything it took to protect those kids.
I have had many different breeds of dogs in the past and I fell that the boxer is the best all around dog. I for some reason my dogs don't like you u don't need to be around my house. I guess I am lucky all my neighbors like my dogs and like the kids playing over here because NO ONE would ever Hurt any kid in my yard Tyson would do anything it took to protect those kids.
What really got my attention is that this women had the gall to come into YOUR home and discipline a member of YOUR family.
Imagine if Kahlua was a (human) child! This interloper would never have been so presumptuous as to discipline a human child in it's own home and your other guests likely would think she was crazy if she did. As a matter of courtesy and respect we simply don't discpline casual friend's children.
I see no difference here. I would have told the woman to chill out or get out (If she chills out, praise her lavishly and treat her with cake and coffee, if she doesn't isolate her on the outside of your front door... be firm and consistent).
This woman and her child were guests in your (And Kahlua's) home. As such she has no business trying to discipline your dog (Makes me wonder about how she disciplines her child:eek
. Imagine what would happen if you yelled and scolded a friends human child for the duration of a visit to their home!
I would be hard pressed to refrain from voicing my ire to this intruder. I would start by printing out some of the posts here and sharing them with her, after which I would inform her that she is Satan incarnate and ask her for the name of any good excorcists she has worked with recently. That should get your point across quite nicely!
Imagine if Kahlua was a (human) child! This interloper would never have been so presumptuous as to discipline a human child in it's own home and your other guests likely would think she was crazy if she did. As a matter of courtesy and respect we simply don't discpline casual friend's children.
I see no difference here. I would have told the woman to chill out or get out (If she chills out, praise her lavishly and treat her with cake and coffee, if she doesn't isolate her on the outside of your front door... be firm and consistent).
This woman and her child were guests in your (And Kahlua's) home. As such she has no business trying to discipline your dog (Makes me wonder about how she disciplines her child:eek
. Imagine what would happen if you yelled and scolded a friends human child for the duration of a visit to their home!I would be hard pressed to refrain from voicing my ire to this intruder. I would start by printing out some of the posts here and sharing them with her, after which I would inform her that she is Satan incarnate and ask her for the name of any good excorcists she has worked with recently. That should get your point across quite nicely!
BigMontana
Boxer Pal
I would have put the kid in another room! No kidding!
Montana has a best buddy named Utly who is a beagle and when we go for walks everyone wants to pet Utly but not Montana. So what I started to do is when the kids get close enough and he starts to get hyper I make Montana sit and then lay down and I get down on the ground with him and hold him close to me and do the baby talk with him and ask the kids to come and pet him. This way the kids down't see him as a BIG dog and Montana gets to be petted and loved.
It works.
Patty
Montana has a best buddy named Utly who is a beagle and when we go for walks everyone wants to pet Utly but not Montana. So what I started to do is when the kids get close enough and he starts to get hyper I make Montana sit and then lay down and I get down on the ground with him and hold him close to me and do the baby talk with him and ask the kids to come and pet him. This way the kids down't see him as a BIG dog and Montana gets to be petted and loved.
It works.
Patty
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