I'm afraid you are between a rock and a hard place.The only way to have a well trained dog is to make the time to train him.Even if you sent him out to an off site trainer for a few weeks you would have to find the time each day to work with him on a one to one basis to make the training work for you. I'm sorry you are in this position. If you do decide you cannot find the time for this "teenager" dog contact the breeder you got him from. Most responsible breeders take their pups back whatever the reason. Paws crossed it doesn't come to that.
I hate to say it, but we're thinking of giving up
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SILLY6PAK
Boxer Insane
You say you do not want to give up but I do not see that you ever cometed. A stay at home Mome definately has time to spend 15 min a day with the family dog IF you WANTED to that is. Find the boy the home he deserves and just know you are not commited to getting a dog. I do not see that the breed will make any difference. ALL breeds need a lot of time to be a well socialized member.
You feel guilty and you should but at least you can make the right decision now and find him a suitable home. Call the local Boxer Rescue now because they might ask you to keep him at your house until a forever home can be found.
You feel guilty and you should but at least you can make the right decision now and find him a suitable home. Call the local Boxer Rescue now because they might ask you to keep him at your house until a forever home can be found.
CaseyGirl
Boxer Booster
I totally understand where you're coming from. I strongly considered getting rid of one of my Jack Russells when I was home during the day by myself breastfeeding an infant. It was too much for me to handle. She was such a handful! I found someone to take her but at the last minute I changed my mind and kept her. I'm glad I did...now that is....now that my life has settled down and my son is older. I do agree however, if you're looking for advice...is to exercise him if you can. Has he been fixed? My boxer is 7 months old but luckily she has my two crazy Jacks to burn off that boxer energy. Is there anyone that could walk him for you during the day....friend, family, proffesional dog walker? They also have so many great walking collars so even the strongest dogs can't pull. I feel for you, I'm sorry you're in this situation.
Biff
Boxer Insane
MyBoxerDewey
Boxer Buddy
I think your husband is the real problem here. You need to get on him to pitch in. There are ZERO good reasons that he cannot take him for a long walk in the morning and at night. It will be beneficial for all of you. Hubby gets in shape, Sirus gets the excercise he can't live without, and you get a calmer dog.
Your husband made a decision that affects all of you. Now make him own up, and follow through on his committment to Sirus. He put you in a tough spot, let him hear about it.
And you can pitch in when the skinkids are laying down for a nap...grab some treats, and be Sirus' master. Teach him right and wrong.
I hope you don't give up...If you both pitch in, it will get better. Good luck
Your husband made a decision that affects all of you. Now make him own up, and follow through on his committment to Sirus. He put you in a tough spot, let him hear about it.
And you can pitch in when the skinkids are laying down for a nap...grab some treats, and be Sirus' master. Teach him right and wrong.
I hope you don't give up...If you both pitch in, it will get better. Good luck
CharlyFarly
Boxer Booster
I guess what I hear is a lot of resentment. Just remember - it's not the dogs fault. Sounds like you and your husband need to have a "come to jes*s meeting" about this so you can share your unhappiness. He needs to pitch in and help! In fairness to your dog - If you don't want to make this work (and maybe your resentment is making it harder to make the time) - I too would call the breeder. They (at least the good ones) would take the dog back in an instance.
But I would tell you this - dogs (boxers or not) don't train themselves. Boxer's are indeed very social and need a lot of exercise. Mine spends his day sleeping off his morning walk or visit to the dog park. We get up early to do it - but a happy dog means a happy me! I would really think (as much as you are dog lovers) whether having a dog at anytime in the future is the best choice. Maybe it would be better to wait until the kids are a bit older when your schedule allows for training and exercise time.
But I would tell you this - dogs (boxers or not) don't train themselves. Boxer's are indeed very social and need a lot of exercise. Mine spends his day sleeping off his morning walk or visit to the dog park. We get up early to do it - but a happy dog means a happy me! I would really think (as much as you are dog lovers) whether having a dog at anytime in the future is the best choice. Maybe it would be better to wait until the kids are a bit older when your schedule allows for training and exercise time.
lovemygracie
Super Boxer
The only options you have are to find your boxer baby a new home, or to work with him on his manners and obedience.
I am sorry you are overworked and busy with your little ones. Seriously--it sounds hard.
Can you get your husband to commit to helping? Training really does not take a lot of time. Young dogs have short attention spans. If you can fit in two 10 minute sessions a day (I feel sure you can!! Get your husband to do it, or you do one and he does one!!) you will start to see results within a month or so. It's not about the time. It is all about consistency--you need to do those short training sessions every day. Practice, and your boxer WILL get it.
It gets easier--I promise. Your boxer will calm down and be a wonderful part of the family if you can stick it out and invest just a little time in him every day now while he is young.
I am sorry you are overworked and busy with your little ones. Seriously--it sounds hard.
Can you get your husband to commit to helping? Training really does not take a lot of time. Young dogs have short attention spans. If you can fit in two 10 minute sessions a day (I feel sure you can!! Get your husband to do it, or you do one and he does one!!) you will start to see results within a month or so. It's not about the time. It is all about consistency--you need to do those short training sessions every day. Practice, and your boxer WILL get it.
It gets easier--I promise. Your boxer will calm down and be a wonderful part of the family if you can stick it out and invest just a little time in him every day now while he is young.
Daisy'sDaddy
Boxer Buddy
One thing i can suggest, and i skimmed through all the posts to see if someone had mentioned it but didnt see it, but if you have the money, I have seen and heard of trainers who actually take your dog for about 30 days, day and night, and train the dog to exactly what it seems you are looking for. It is really expensive, but if you dont have the time and are really committed to keeping your boxer, it would seem like the way to go, provided you have financial standing to do so. I believe it is in the thousands, as the dog is there day AND night. Best of luck.
Cami
Boxer Insane
Contact a rescue who will find him a forever home that will have the time to train him and allow him to turn into the wonderful puppy that he can be.
This is a LIVING-BREATHING SOUL you are talking about, just as children are. They are not children they are dogs but they deserve a loving home just the same.
I wish you peace at coming to a decision. One that is good for all involved.
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