I feel so guilty (looong) sorry

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MEME'S

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It's with a heavy heart that I sit here and write this. Our poor sweet Griffin (male husky 6) has gone to the bridge.It's a long heartbreaking story but I'll try to give just the facts to keep it short.About 2 years ago Griffin became extremly withdrawn and only wanting to be in his crate. This was around the same time that my skin kid was born. So we let him be and figured he would come around and adjust, and he did to some extent. Well fast forward to 6 months ago when for no apparent reason he started getting extremly agressive (while in his crate) toward myself, husband and boxer. He was checked out vet wise and the all clear was given with his health. He started nipping at us thruogh the crate and growling. He never wanted to come out of his crate except to eat and go to the bathroom which sadly by his own choice got to be only once a day towards the end. We had to move his crate down to the unfinished basementof my houe for the protection of my 2 year old because he had become so unpredictable. Well as time went by and he was not improving the decisoin had to be made as to what to do with him. The final straw was a week ago we went out of town overnight and had a neighbor come over to let him out, he almost attacked this person (whom he knew and liked at one time) and it scared this man so badly that he left Griffin uncrated in the closed basement. At that point my husband and I came home to a destroyed door a torn up carpet and alot of poop and pee (all forgivable) but what was not fixable was the fear we now had of this dog. So we took him to the humane soceity here in madison which is really an excellent place not like most meaning the work with rescues and DO give the animal a chance, and explained what had happened and why we were surrendering him. So with tears we left in hopes that mabe there was something they could do for him.
Well yesturday we got the call that they had put him down because he was SO aggressive that nobody had been able to get into his crate to even let him out or feed him. I guess he was lunging at the door,growling, and biting at them! I was shocked,saddened, and feeling really guilty that I had done this to him. Does this pain ever go away? All we can do is cry about it even though I know that the dogfights would have escalated to the point that it would have ended with Dutch being severley injured or even dead I still feel as though I have let him down. I am a huge animal advocate when it comes to the dumping of animals. I feel if you chose to take on an animal that it is your responsibility to care for them and if the time comes and you can't to re-home them., but how could I have given him to somebody with him acting so agressive? I guess I'm just looking for a little encouragment and support with this heartwrenching decision we had to make. I hope he will fogive us and wait for us at the bridge. God bless and thanks for your time.angelicon
 

Austin's Mom

Boxer Insane
Please don't feel guilty. You are protecting your family. Obviously Griffin had some issues that couldn't be resolved. I'm sure he's happy and healthy running around at the Bridge watching over you. ((hugs)) You did your best.
 

Brody@cali

Boxer Booster
I feel your pain!

I understand what your going though. Yes the pain does go away! Atleast you were looking for the best in the dog! Yes he was at one point apart of your family but he that is turning for the bad. You did the right choice. When I was a child my mom had a dog who didnt like me or my next door neighbor. The dog would chace us up the jungle jim and we were at one time left there for a good hour before my mom notice we were crying. I guess him being named tuffy wasnt a good idea either. They put him to sleep due to that. Only because my mom working at the court house and was scard the dog would attack another child and charges would be filed against her. Soon or later he was just a memory. I remember the pain being so hurtful. he was MY dog! My best to you. Your heart will heal and your dog will forgive you.
 

ILoveMyCasey

Super Boxer
Krystin, Do not blame yourself! You and your DH did everything you could do. You would be feeling more guilt of god forbid he bit your son! I am sure he is happy now and running free! Again, do not blame yourself, please. We all understand where you are coming from and are here to support you. I myself have been to the Humane Society in Madison, my cousins live in Appleton. I know that the staff there would have done anything they could to help him! Lots of hugs and kisses!!! OXOXOX
 

MEME'S

Boxer Booster
Thanks for the support all! I forgot to mention that my dh saw a rainbow last night! a huge one, so I hope it was a sign from the fuzzy Griffin that he's o.k. now and waiting! angelicon
 

spud's mum

Boxer Pal
I'm so sorry to hear you had to go through a horrible situation like that. You made the only descision you could have possibly made in those circumstances, so please don't blame yourself. You did everything you could. (((hugs)))to you and your family.
 

kimking01

Boxer Pal
Don't feel guilty at all. You were protecting your family!
When I met my dh he had a Chow chow. The dog was ok when i first met him but when we moved in together, Odie became aggressive to everyone. I was pregnant and we knew we couldn't trust Odie around a baby and didn't want to "wait" to see if something happened. We called everyone, behaviorists and rescues and everyone said the same thing. It would be best to find him another home.. We tried and eventually we took him to the SPCA. They told us immediately that since he's already shown signs of aggression that they couldn't adopt him, they didn't want Odie to become someone elses problem. We know deep in our hearts we tried and so did you.
 

samsonite

Boxer Pal
I'm so sorry about Griffin, but you can't blame yourself. You tried for 2 years to make him comfortable and give him space. Maybe he had something neurological the vet could've missed? No matter what, I commend you for giving him the best life possible. Godspeed, Griffin!
 

haleyandmark

Boxer Insane
I am very sorry to hear about the passing of your beloved Griffin. Do not feel as though you are to blame; you were protecting the interest of your own family, which is what should come first anyway. He is now happy and running free at the Rainbow Bridge ...

angelicon Rest in peace Griffin
 
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