How Soon Is Too Soon??

[Ali_Crazy]

As some of you might know my sweet boy Ali went to the rainbow bridge on June 25, 2005 and I was just wanted some opinions on how soon I should start thing about getting another wonderful boxer.
I know that getting another baby will not bring back Ali, but I just miss that wonderful presence of a boxer in the household. The skin kids are always saying how much they miss Ali, but they would love to get another fur brother or sister to get close to. DH was the closest to Ali, he was a big daddy's boy, and I don't know how he would feel if I brought up getting another one to him.
I know that it would be awhile before a new baby would even come into the house because we still would have to look for a breeder and go through all the screening and everything, but I feel like I'm ready to start the process all over again. I kinda think it might help my grieving process.
Any comments are welcomed. I also don't want Ali looking down from Rainbow Bridge and thinking that we're trying to replace him or forgetting about him because there is no way that would ever happen. Thanks for helping!

 

[bucca]

i agree, you will know the right time. some people still need time to grieve and others go right out and get another dog. i think ali would be happy you are giving another dog the same love and wonderful home you gave her.

 

[Indy B's Mom]

For DH and myself, it always helps us to get another baby! Everyone's different on this, though. I don't see my new baby as a replacement for the one I have lost, more as a gift from my furry angels. I still miss my babies who have gone to the bridge, but I feel that they have sent Ty to me, knowing how much love my family has to give a puppy. Good luck on whatever you decide!

 

[thelawrences]

There isn't a too soon

When Tyke left us for the bridge, we were devastated and declared we would never have another dog. We couldn't bear to go through it again. Barney joined us four months later!!!

It was two years since Tyke left on Monday of this week, and I still feel his loss. Barney is no replacement and never will be, but he is a wonderful, loving energy that makes me laugh out loud every day. I wouldn't be without him.

And everything Tyke taught us about boxers has made Barney's training and every day life easier and more enjoyable for all of us!!

 

[Ali_Crazy]

Thanks for remembering
No we haven't got married yet, still set for 9/3, which is oh so close. I've been trying to get in the habit of him my husband. Sounds to real to be true

Thank you so much for your opinion about a new puppy. I ,like you, feel like it might help me deal with everything!!

 

[Cami]

The last animal I lost was in April of 2003. She was a beautiful cat who I had in my life for 17 years. Losing her was totally devastating which I know you understand. She finally lost her battle with chronic renal failure after fighting it for over 4 years. When she was gone I had nothing to do. No meds to give, no clean-ups, no administeration of daily fluids. I was lost. My DH said that we would never have another animal as it was just to hard going thru illness and death.

I started seaching for a new kitten companion (had cats for 20 years prior) and searched for a month straight all to no avail. I just couldn't find "the one". Dh wanted skin kids.....(another story) and I thought that the boxer that he had always dreamed of would ease the desire for skin children as I have no intention of ever having children.

When DH found an ad for pups in the paper (I know very bad, but didn't know better) we were just going to "look". We ended up bringing Cami home less than 2 months after losing our cat. Within 6 days my perfect angel Silverbelle (cat) found me! It was fate. Our family is perfect now and I wouldn't change anything about it at all. Things happen for a reason and you will know what is right for your family because it will all fall into place.

I still miss my "Kitty" every day but having other little ones to watch grow up has eased the bitter pain. Now memories can be remembered with similes instead of tears.

Everyones time line is different. There are far too many pets in the world that need loving homes and there are far less homes with people that are willing to have them. Your new addition is out there (or soon to be out there) and you will find each other when the time is right!

Good-Luck! and Congrats on the upcoming wedding!

 

[ladyluck_t]

I say if you feel ready, then get a new baby to love!
I may be biased here, but while you are going through the search for a new puppy, have you considered being a foster home for a local boxer rescue? This way maybe you can help out a boxer baby find a new home and he/she can help you heal.
I have never had so much love and good warm fuzzy feelings as I do now that I work with the rescue. Each and every foster boy has taught me something new and made me laugh every day.
It is just a thought!
Good Luck on your upcoming nupitals!

 

[Linda/NJ]

I think only you will know when it is time. Do not feel guity. I am sure Ali would want you to do what makes you happy.

 

[high octane]

You will know when it's time.
I hate not having Vex in my life. I still have Odin and not to disrespect him b/c I love him dearley but Vex was MY dog (Odin is dh's). I am happy we have Odin but I miss my boy. I almost resented Odin for being here when we lost Vex. I know it sounds awful but I missed him so terribly, he was all I wanted. I know I am not ready to fill his place in our home but one day I will. You and dh will know when it's time to fill that void in your life with another bouncing boxer puppy and what a happy day it will be. There is a little soul out there that deserves to be loved by a family like yours.
Good-luck!