Help I need some advice

[Joe123]

Im a 23 year old guy and I recently lost my 6yr old boxer to cancer on Friday. My parenst put her to sleep when i was at work on friday without telling me, I feel very bad that i never got ot say goodbye, she was like the only person always there for me when i was home. But now my house is so lonely and empty I really want to get another boxer but unfortunately I still live at home and my parenst dont want another one because they dont want to go through the same thing. I also wanted to know is this common for a boxer to die at age 6. And how do u think i can convince them to get another one.

thanks

 

[ACEY]

My Sympathy and Understanding

Hello Joe,
My heart goes out to you, I lost my boxer to cancer just a couple of months ago. I think that your parents should have let you in on the goodbye. You are old enough, but they probably were being parents and protecting you from the pain. Try to understand that and forgive them. It was not easy for me, Ace took his last breath with his head on my lap. I would'nt have had it any other way. My sons (11 yr.) and my husband were outside - we were all prepared that he was on his way, we all had said our goodbyes- but I chose to be with him alone at that moment. Although I will always remember him in good, funny boxer ways, I will never forget that moment when he took his last breath. It will always be stuck in my head. I think you should be positive and think of the years you had with him. From what I have learned boxers do have a short life span. There is alot on the internet for grieving your dog. I found a beautiful poem about losing your dog, I purchased a beautiful head stone and had his picture engraved on it. I also got a "boxer angel" which hangs in my rearview mirror to remind me of him. These things helped me alot. You will know when you are ready for another - it will not take your dogs place but it will find a way into your heart. Good Luck!

 

[Adelle]

I am sorry to here you lost your boxer to cancer, and I am sorry you didn't get to say goodbye either, but I am sure your parents meant well and were just just trying to protect you and spare you the painful experience.

Many people say they never want another dog after going through such an experience, I am sure in time they will change their mind, its only been a few days so give them time to heal, everyone copes differently some people run out immediately and get another dog others wait months some even years.

It's not necessarily common for a boxer to die at 6 but its also not unheard of either, boxers are prone to varius cancers which can occur at any age. We lost our fist boxer to cancer at age 9, but others have lost them much younger, its never easy no matter how old they are.

I am sorry for your loss.

Adelle

 

[VTbxrFan]

I'm very sorry for your loss. 6 is certainly young, but unfortunately it happens. You just never know - my family lost one at about 3 yrs old, but now my parents have a boxer who is 12 and still going strong.

Give your parents a little time and maybe they'll come around. I was in high school when my family lost our first boxer at 10 yrs old. My Dad and I really wanted another boxer right away - the house was just too quiet and lonely without a dog. The rest of the family didn't want one. They came around after a few months, though. It can be hard for some people - I know that some of my family members felt it was disrespectful to "replace" our girl so soon and they needed time to grieve. The way my Dad and I saw it, it was a tribute to her - she brought so much joy into our homes that we wanted to have that again but also realized that a new dog is different and not a replacement.

Be patient, and if your parents truly don't want another one, just wait until you are on your own. I grew up with boxers and loved them all dearly, but I have to say it was a whole different thing when I got one as an adult that was totally my responsibility. What a tremendous bond that creates!

 

[Shakira's Ma]

Boxers and Cancer

Yes I do think that it is common for boxers to die young from cancer. Even boxer mixes fall prey to this disease. We had a boxer, pitbull mix and she was found to have cancer at age two in her spine. We gave her the best veternarian care we could, she managed to live a relatively normal life until she turned 7 years old. We even had special prayer for her. The cancer advanced in her spine so much that the spine had actually crushed on her spinal cord and when we viewed X-rays we found she had three fractures in her neck because her spine and neck vertabraes were so weak they couldn't hold up her head. I, too, like Acey held her until she took her last breath and I would not have had it any other way. This dog seemed to be able to look into your soul. We did get a purebred boxer pup who is now 6 months old but there will never be another Shelby.

 

[Linda/NJ]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

Linda & Ginger