Kota's mom said:
Do I just have to wait it out? Is it okay to leave him in there till he breaks it could be hours days? has anyone done that? does it work?
No, it is not OK to leave him there until he "breaks". And no, it won't work - you'll just teach him to hate his crate, and cause him even more anxiety being in there. The crate needs to be a place where your puppy feels safe and secure. That's not going to happen by imprisoning him day and night until he finally stops howling (won't help with housetraining him either).
At nine weeks old it's quite normal for him to cry when he's put in his crate. Where do you keep it, btw? At night, I'd suggest that he and his crate are in your bedroom with you. Then at least he's not all alone and is more likely to settle down. He is going to HAVE to have at least one potty stop during the night (possibly two or three) so I'd suggest you set an alarm for taking him out. Take him whether he's crying or not - the last thing you want is him soiling in his crate. But in the middle of the night, he has to go straight back to bed
During the daytime, if you're home, its a good idea to have his crate wherever you are or where the activity of the house is (ie. not isolated from whatever is going on). You'll probably find it easier to pursuade him that his crate is a good place if he's not all alone. You could try feeding him in there, and playing games in and around the (open) crate too. And when he gets sleepy (has to happen with a 9 week old) or if he falls off to sleep anywhere else, pop him into the crate then. There are bound to be other brief periods when you can't watch him so need him in his crate. In those cases, try to make sure he's pottied just before he goes in, and do give him something to do while he's there (a stuffed kong, for example). You can safely ignore his crying for a while - but after half an hour to an hour, he's got to be taken out to potty again, crying or not.
If you're not home with him during the day, then I'd suggest that leaving him in a puppy-proofed room (such as kitchen or bathroom) is a better idea than the crate. Being crated all day and night is too much confinement for any dog, let alone a pup who seems stressed by the crate. He's also going to HAVE to potty every hour or so. If you can't be around to take him out when he needs to go, or don't have someone else who can come and give him potty/play breaks then IMO he's better off in a room than his crate. At least then, when he has to potty, he doesn't also have to sit in his own mess.