bickedwitch said:
Now I was just trying to figure out is if it was related to that incident, would I go about helping him in the same manner or would I need to try something different?
Yes, basically fear issues are dealt with in the same manner. Certainly by knowing what initiated the fear will help in setting up controlled situations to show him that he has nothing to fear. But personally, I feel that if a dog is not going to face that situation again, there is no need to desensitize him to such an event. So in this situation, my personal opinion, is to continue working with him around strangers and never go to that other vet again. The Cautious Canine book will help you set up a program to help him over his fears, it is a small book (~20pgs) so should be an easy read. And dogwise is quite quick on it's deliveries.
bickedwitch said:
The problem is, after the initial meeting, he seems to want the persons attentions quite badly but is too afraid to go up to them. He wiggles at them and whines a little but will not get close enough for any acutal attention. He will even box at them if they totally ignore him (which he does with anyone in our family) He is sometimes a great mistery to me....
Sami & Winston
This is very common in dogs at this age, think back to what wolves at this age do. They are not quite old enough to go out hunting with the pack but are big enough to go exploring on their own. It is a natural safety mechinism built into all animals.

Which is good, there is loads of information on how to help guide your dog through this stage so that at the end of the stage you have a well adjusted, confident dog. That should be your goal. And it all leads back to leadership. I would like to draw a quick corrollary here: I have a teenage human son

He has done some pretty stupid things in the past couple of years, he is going through the fear stage too. We call it the akward teen phase, but it relates back to the 2nd fear stage in behaviors. I am certain that my son wouldnt do the crazy things he does if he didnt know in his heart that I was there to "catch" him when he falls. That is what good parenting is all about. We allow them to stretch their wings while providing the safety net that allows them to face down their fears. Take a look at a group of teens and their parents, watch the behaviors of the confident teens and how they relate to their parents and what the "scared teens" and see how their parents are. You should

see a corollation between the types of leadership and confidence of the teen. Same thing goes for confidence in dogs. Go one day to the dog park, on a busy day (without your dog) and watch the interactions between people and dogs. See if you can spot some of the things that make good leaders and see if they have confident dogs. I think you would be amazed at what you see. I know I was.

The other booklet I recommended will get you quite a ways down the road of leadership, it does work, I use it with all of my foster dogs, my own dogs, my skin-kid, my coworkers and just about anyone else I meet :D There are 5 basic traits of leaders of any group: 1. Calm, 2. Clear, 3. Concise, 4. Compassionate, and 5. Confident. And for us humans to accept someone as a leader they must possess a healthy dose of every trait, think about the leaders you respect and see if it is so in your mind.