Establishing yourself as the Alpha / tough love

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BarbD

Boxer Pal
I have an 8 month old male. This is my 2nd boxer. Typical boxer traits - smart and stubborn. He knows to sit, lay down and stay but will only perform them when it is to his benefit. I read somewhere that I need to establish myself as the alpha. I never had to do this with any female dogs I had.

I've been making him sit before I will let him eat, get fresh water, go outside to the bathroom, come back inside, have a toy, etc. I do not play on the floor with him and cuddle since I started this about 1 week ago. I will pet him for a minute or 2 only after he sits first. Don't talk baby talk with him either. When I give him commands, I am always standing tall.

His behavior has seemed to improve but I started noticing yesterday that he's up to his old tricks again. If, for instance, he's getting pesty, I'll tell him to sit and he'll just dart off instead. If I tell him to come, he'll just ignore the comand. This morning while eating breakfast, the rule is for him to lay down in the dining room where he can still see us. He must stay there until we're done eating. He has been abiding by this rule pretty good up until this morning. As soon as I would sit down, he would come in the kitchen under the table. I'd make him go back and lay down and he'd repeat. Of course, with each repeat, I'd be more annoyed than the time before. So I ended up putting his leash on him and wrapping it around the dining room tabe.

My husband seems to think that because we are using the tough love approach, it's backfiring because we're not paying enough attention to him. Your wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
 

Rocco850

Super Boxer
First of all, he's 8 months old-he's still a puppy and is now entering the "Teenage Years". We rescued Rocco and he was just beginning his Teenage Terrors :eek: . He decided when he wanted to listen and when he didn't. He doesn't do that anymore, now he's about 15 months. My advice to you would be to read "Culture Clash" (you can find more info in the Book Forum), and be consistent. IMO, I don't like the "tough love" approach. He's not going to want to learn when the person who's teaching him looks upset or too stern the whole time. They are very good at reading body language. Good luck! :)
 

BarbD

Boxer Pal
Holding dog between legs

Thanks. I'm going to give this a try. When he is acting up and you hold him, do you say anything to him? When you put him in that position when he is not acting up do you say anything to him at that time?

My female boxer loves sitting this way. I've never had to do it to establish dominance.
 

adobeboxers

Boxer Booster
BarbD-
I am going through the same things you are, I have a 10month old and he is testing my very last nerve. Over the last few days, he is ignoring almost every command I give him...I always knew he was stubborn but man oh man. He is testing me like crazy. Don't think you are the only one!

Good luck!
 

Oscar's Mom

Super Boxer
Oscar was a holy terror around that age. He was well behaved until about 7 months and then it was a totally different story. He's now 13 months old and is starting to listen again. Sometimes he will still kick his back leg out, like a bull that is ready to charge, when he doesn't want to do something. It's pretty funny.

Myra
 
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