I've done it both ways. SuzyQ is the first dog we have crate trained and it was much nicer and easier on all of us. We kept her crate in the living room in front of a patio door that overlooked our yard and driveway and the street so she had something to look at. We would leave the door open when we were home and she often would go in and take a nap, and if she was scolded for anything she would run in there. It was her safety zone. Even if you can put her in a small place like a bathroom, if you are away very long they can and will find mischief (damaging mischief) to get into. I have had dogs chew the edges of cabinet doors, trim, tear up linoleum, and what fun toilet paper can be. If this is your first dog you will be amazed at the damage a puppy, particularly one who will be a big puppy soon, can do. Of course, she may not be that bad, but it's a real crap shoot whenever you leave them unattended. They may not like being crated at first, but I really don't believe it is being mean to them. They will figure out whichever method you choose, that you go away for a period of time and then you come back. Good luck with whatever you decide.