advice wanted - Fostering

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MayKay&SaJo

Boxer Booster
My husband & I have been discussing the possibility of becoming foster parents for a local rescue organization, and I would like some advice from those of you who are currently involved in rescue & fostering. My husband is worried that I am too sensitive to be able to foster. He always knows when something has happened to a Boxer on BW because I always crawl in his lap and cry. His main concern is that if I have such a strong reaction to animals that I have never even met (although I feel like I know many of them just from following all of the posts), how will I react when something happens to a dog we are trying to help. He worries about my emotional attachment. How do you all deal with the emotional side of fostering and rescue?
 

ladyluck_t

Boxer Insane
I just want to start off by saying THANKS!! fostering is the backbone of rescue work and so very much worth all the work! Here is the advice i would give:
1. Make sure you research the rescue, some are not as reputable as others. Mainly this is a gut feeling kind of thing based on the answers to the following questions.
2. Be sure to ask what are your financial responsibilities and what are the rescue's. Our rescue does pay for medical issues but they must be pre-approved by the rescue, also they pay for training classes if needed and collars/leashes. i pay for all food and just happened to have an extra crate
3. Ask what is their policy on preventative meds. one rescue i worked for didnt provide any HW med's and neglected to tell me so that i could decide if i wanted to take that risk.
4. Ask what type of training you are required to provide. (i.e. basic commands or take to a class)
5. ask what type of liability the rescue is willing to accept on behavioral issues. One of my foster's bit my dog the first day, my rescue did pay for all medical expenses on my girl, but some rescue's may not.
I am not trying to discourage you, just make sure you go into this with your eyes open. I found out the hard way about the above issues, just dont want to see anyone else have to go through that.

As far as the emotional issues, well i have to say i get pretty attached to my rescues, but so far every foster i have had i can tell that even though my home is a good home, it is not the best home for them. Every one i could have made work with my family, it is just i knew they would find an even better place. I have to keep telling myself this :) just to keep from saving them all. I have noticed that i feel so proud, like a momma sending my kids off to college feeling, when they get adopted out. It is very bittersweet but very possible to handle. With the overwhelming number of homeless animals, there will be a new guy coming into your home shortly after the old guy gets adopted.
Also another bit of advice i would give is to get some reading materials, just about all the books recommended in the book forum are good. Mainly just to help you become a better leader to your "pack". another lesson learned the hard way by me! :rolleyes: When you add this new dynamic to your home, i feel the better prepared you are the easier things will go. So, here are a few i would recommend to people just starting out in fostering.
The Dog Listener by Jan Fennell
The Other End of the Leash by Patricia McConnell
Culture Clash by Jean Donaldson
The Power of Positive Dog Training by Pat Miller
Don't Shoot the Dog by Karen Pryor
Personally, i think every dog owner should have these books in their personal library. ;) they really helped me learn about how to be a better leader. So much so, i find myself a little more assertive and confident at work now too. :D added benefits!
Good Luck! and THANKS AGAIN!
(p.s. sorry this was so long!)
 

chipchip

Boxer Buddy
I agree with everything Ladyluck says. I just wanted to add that if the rescue you work with does a thorough job in screening prospective adopters, your heart will soar knowing that your foster baby will be going to a forever home.
 

apoor

Boxer Pal
I totally agree with the other two posts. We are fostering our 4th boxer and it has been hard to say goodbye to each one, but is so amazing to see them go off to their forever homes - and hear the stories of how happy they are. Still - don't be too hard on yourself because it is totally natural to get attached. Basically the worst case scenario is your first foster gets adopted by you!
 
It is very hard to deal with the fosters leaving, but I am so glad that I decided to foster! It makes me feel so great because I know that I am really helping these dogs. I have actually got pictures of 2 of my fosters (Bain and Bosco) in my gallery, Bain and Bosco. Also, Roxy loves having "foster Brothers" around. It is like a slumber party for her. I say that if you really want to help, go for it! I am really glad that I did!
 
I think you have to make sure you go in with the mindset- we are not keeping you. I knew our limit is 3 dogs- we had 2. Any foster we kept meant we could not foster. I also knew that my next dog I wanted a dog bred for specific things and that dog would be my next obedience/agility dog.

We loved all our fosters- but we knew that they were not staying and we never debated it. We had a couple deaf boys for 6 mo and 9 mo each- but they still found great homes and we had great memories. It was HARD to let them go after all that time but I do keep in touch with the foster families.

I also have a foster scrap book and each dog has a page about them with pics and then I do an update section when I get new pics.
 

kitikarial2

Super Boxer
MayKay, that was a good question. i always think about fostering, but wonder if I too, would not be able to let go. And i also worry about how they will get along with my other dogs (2). What happens if they dont get along? and how long has been the average to foster a dog? I would love to do that too.
 
I think average stay depends on a lot of factors. I have had dogs adopted in 2 weeks and we had a deaf white puppy for nearly 9 months. There is an older dog is rescue right now that has been in for over 1 year now since the seniors are SO hard to place.

We did have a few that were not great with my dogs. We lived with baby gates and shuffling. In a worse case senario I know rescue has moved dogs to another foster home.
 

ladyluck_t

Boxer Insane
kitikarial2 said:
What happens if they dont get along? and how long has been the average to foster a dog?


That is why i recommend that people research the rescue before applying. this is a major question that should be asked and answered to everyone's satisfaction before you decide to foster. Some rescues take on more liability than others for the behaviors of their dogs. Dont be worried about asking all kinds of questions, I have been involved in screening new foster homes and adoptive homes, I am quite happy to have someone who asks lots of questions. It makes me think they are truly serious about fostering and are taking the time to find out the information needed. It is one of the things that i look for when interviewing people.
 

MayKay&SaJo

Boxer Booster
We're gonna do it!

I went to a benefit on Saturday that was held by the local boxer rescue. They were taking glamour pictures of dogs! It was great! I had already talked to the director before I got there about fostering a sweet girl named Mindy. Mindy was able to come and meet me and my middle son, and we hit it off. The director and Mindy was supposed to come by on Sunday so they could meet the rest of my family, but my stepson was hit in the face with a softball bat on Saturday afternoon & we just weren't up for a visit! :( But I really think this fostering is going to work out! They are not listed on BoxerWorld's foster list, but I talked to the director about it. She said that she had a lot of respect for the site & would love to participate but didn't have the time. I am going to look into being her "voice" on BW if Ollie agrees.
 
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