Thinks DH is her personal property?!

[bayleighmom]

Bayleigh is almost 3 years old. She has always been a little bossy with Wyatt. Now Wyatt has little sight or hearing and is usually in his own little world. Bayleigh will go outside with him and "herd" him to the correct spot. She also herds him into the bedroom at night.

DH is her absolute favorite person. The other night, she was on the recliner with DH. Wyatt wandered by (I don't think he even knew she was there!) and Bayleigh jumped down and tried to attack him. She was immediately put into her crate. She didn't bite him but she's lucky he didn't have a heart attack.

Then the next night, DH & Bayleigh are on the couch and the cat walks by. Same thing...Bayleigh jumps down and goes after the cat. She was put back into her crate. I was so upset. Bayleigh and the cat are partners in crime and play together. I told DH that she was no longer allowed on the furniture and we would be practicing NILIF. He always bitches about all my animals and doesn't help with most of the caretaking. But I think it strokes his ego to think that Bayleigh considers him hers.

So what do I do? Continue with NILIF? Bayleigh doesn't try that with me. She knows I am the leader but when DH is around....

I have told DH that he will have to stop babying her and giving her her way. Or maybe I should practice NILIF with DH...wonder if I could shove him in Bayleigh's crate when he's bad!?

 

[punchinella]

Or maybe I should practice NILIF with DH...wonder if I could shove him in Bayleigh's crate when he's bad!?

I don't know, but it might be fun to try ::

My parent's have a dog like this. She thinks nobody is allowed around my dad if she's with him. I would definitely establish to her that she isn't allowed to behave like this. It might start off with other animals, but may eventually progress to lashing out at other people.

 

[dafzichu]

Tammy, I feel for you. We had the same situation with my grandmother. She refuses to practice NILF and it shows. Her boy that recently passed, Brutis, had pretty bad domaniance issues and she babied him until the day he ran off for the bridge. We even brought in a trainer to try and get her to see that she needed to do NILF and have him see her as the leader, but nothing worked. I sure hope you can find a way to convince your DH.

 

[AdamsBunch]

Similar situation...

I think you are doing the right thing. We have a similar problem around our house. I never have problems with our boys fighting but for some reason the few times we have had issues the boyfriend has been involved. He really wants to assert himself as the "pack-leader" of the house and I'm perfectly fine with that. I'm starting to wonder if they think I'm the leader because the listen very closely to me and I never have issues with them. Or maybe it's his method? Help?!