New puppy?

[gary766]

I need a little advice. My Conner passed on 10-03-07. Being a member of BW has helped dealing with his passing. A good friend of mine who also has boxers just had a litter of puppies. He knows how much I loved Conner and has offered me a puppy. I know this new pup would never replace our Conner but I am tempted to take my friend up on his offer. I don't know if should or if it's to soon after Conner's passing. I think I just need an outside opinion on this.

 

[Rileyboy]

Hi Gary: I know how you feel.. When our family lost Riley 1/05 I felt like my heart had broken into a million pieces and my best friend was gone, I was so sad I missed him so much, and the house felt empty with out him. My daughter found Cody and she and my DH were in agreement that we couldn't ever replace Riley He was truly our special boy, but our Love for him had no where to go.. so Cody came into our family a few weeks after Riley left on his RB journey, I wasn’t as sure as the rest of the family that we should of got Cody so soon, I felt like I was pushing Riley’s memory aside, and how could I be so sad about Riley and then happy to have a new puppy.. But I have to honestly say.. I loved Riley with all my heart as he was the most human dog I ever owned and our first Boxer, But in my heart I knew Riley didn’t choose to get sick nor to leave us, and we really tried so hard to save him.. I don’t think he would of wanted us to be so sad… He was and will always be my special friend and he’ll be forever in my heart, Cody was this little cute bundle of puppy energy and an added distraction to my sorrow, Not that I didn’t have literally days that I cried for no reason as just to miss my boy. Riley’s memory lives within my heart, His photos keep him with us forever, It will be 3 years this Jan and I still have days that I miss him and wish he was still here, But Cody has given us new reasons to smile.. and New memories, Cody is so different then Riley yet so similar in many ways. Guess that’s just the boxer traits that makes us love the breed. Riley loved to steal socks, and Cody does the same exact thing, So even though Cody has a different personality then Riley I am glad that Cody came into our lives.. every now and then he still gets called Riley but Riley taught us how wonderful Boxers truly are.. Nothing better then being loved by a boxer no matter if we only have them in our lives for a short time or they get to grow old with us, they just add a joy like no other. Now we have added Layla Our first girl boxer and now we have the joy of having two boxers in our life to love and make memories with.. Conner will be with you forever as his memories will always live with in your heart.. I hope this helps.. ~ Vickie Cody and Layla and Riley who is romping with Conner at the Bridge

 

[SargesMommy]

It's a hard decision to make. We love our fur kids so much that it makes you feel almost guilty to get a new one when the other has been gone for just a little while. When my cat Callie died a few years ago, it was a terrible, terrible thing for me. I was just lost and felt like someone had stomped on my heart. About 4 weeks after Callie left us, I was at a feed store and heard a bunch of "mewing" and went to look and found a little gray cat (whose name is now Graycie) and took her home with me. She's certainly NOT my Callie girl, but she is a joy in my life. It somehow helped to get Graycie; not that I would ever forget Callie, but Graycie helped my heart heal. At first I was sad that I had gotten Graycie and thought I'd made a terrible mistake because she couldn't replace Callie - but now, she's just a whacked out cat that cracks me up and whom I look forward to being terrorized by everyday.

Good luck with your decision and I'm sorry about your puppy that went to the Bridge.

Cheryl

 

[Jagers Mommy]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear of your loss! It's so hard to lose such an important part of your life like that!
I lost a boxer bud about 6 years ago, and my husband and i got jager last year and he's SOOO much different than Buster was, but I'm so glad to have another in my life! If you don't feel like it's too soon than go for it! Just remember that it's not the same dog. Jager's not like Buster was at all, and it was hard for me to realize that at first, but we love Jager so much and I feel complete again!

 

[Biff]

Oh, Gary, only you can decide. My heart wants to tell you, "YES! go for it!", but only you know for sure.

Maybe Connor has a hand in this you know, could be he wants to see one of those puppies going to you, to help heal your pain.

(((Hugs)))

 

[Haylydon]

I agree only you can decide what is best for you. If you get a new puppy Connor will still be in your heart. Just think of all the fun you had with him and you can give all that love and attention to a new puppy. Totally your call and you know when the time is right. Maybe if you go see the pups the decison will be made for you. Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[billbgh]

So sorry for your loss, Gary. I too, had a similar incident. In June we lost Jelly Bean and it was hard on all of us, but Apollo suffered the most. He was so lost, it was horrible to watch him not eat and to just lay around. We waited a whole 3 days after Bean's passing to get Rocky. It hasn't always been smooth sailing(We still deal with potty issues). I don't think that you are trying to replace Connor, but to have a wonderful addition in your life with a new pup, because you know how these wonderful creatures complete your soul. If you feel up to task for kisses, hugs and laughs, then I say go for it, but on the other hand, if you feel that it will be too hard on you(grieving can take a while), then I say wait until the time is right. Good luck and please keep us posted.

Erin
Apollo & Rocky's mom