I had a female, Katie for 12 1/2 years - she was very sweet, gave kisses on command and loved to snuggle in bed - under the covers. I have always had female pets and never wanted a male. But we had two female dogs in a row that had problems with spay incontinence - we dealt with that for 6 years with one and 7 years with Katie. Because of that we decided on a male this time.
I *reeeeallly* didn't want a boy - but now I would not have anything else. Mack is so very sweet, so laid back, so affectionate in a quieter way. He is a typical guy - "you can hug and kiss me if you want Mom, and I will stay here and let you." But he does love laps, even if not much of him fits on mine.